Things are not good here right now. I have been in Plan B for almost two weeks and low and behold I now think I am pregnant. I did not know about MB when I found out about my H's multiple A's and I left home to stay with my parent and threw out my pills, figuring what did I need them for now. Well sometime in the midst of Plan A I should have realized that is what I might need them for, but that would have been the thought process of someone that was thinking straight and did not have their heart torn into little pieces. Now here I am two weeks after finding out the the OW is very much still in the picture and dealing with this. What do I do?<P>I am not sure if I should inform him of our "news" or wait out Plan B to see if he will come out of the fog on his own. I can see the pros and cons of both actions and the cons of both are not good ones. <P>SOMEONE PLEASE HELP!!!<P>I am also waiting for S. Harley to reply to a voicemail message from this morning.

Tough call, but I think you should stick out Plan B and see if he comes out of the fog on his own.<P>There is plenty of time to tell him later.<P>Godspeed and goodluck,<BR>STL

If I understand you correctly and you are pregnant with your H's child (??), then Plan B or no Plan B, I think he needs to know this information. What you do next is a whole different issue.<P>BTW, do you <B>think</B> you're pregnant or do you <B>know</B>? Maybe wait until you know for certain.<P>Yikes...<P>AGG

I agree with STL...<P>Find out for sure if you're pregnant, take good care of yourself, and stick to your Plan B until you're sure ~ then revisit this and see if you feel it's in your best interest to break the Plan B (also will give Steve Harley time to get a call back to you).

It is my H's baby. He is the only person I have ever been with. I will be taking a test this weekend to know for sure. I am 95 percent sure that the result will be poitive. I am having some early signs and am just waiting until I am sure the test will be right. Everything I have read says to the most accurate time is a few days after you actually missed your period. <P>The problem is that I worry more about what to do if it is positive than if it is at this point.

Well, if you <B>are</B> pregnant, I can't see how you can <B>not</B> tell your H... What are you going to do, wait until you go into labor??<P>Sorry, I can't agree with the "stay in Plan B" sentiment. Or, rather, I would say go ahead and stay in Plan B on all other matters, but communicate to your H that he is a father-to-be.<P>AGG

AGG,<P>Until she knows for sure, I don't think she should deviate from her Plan B. But maybe Steve Harley has some other ideas about this... <P>Plan B can be sooooooo effective... although I would never say that the H shouldn't know about his own baby, of COURSE he should, regardless of the Plan. But... a Plan B with SinkingFast might be just the ticket for him to realize what he'll miss out on, don't you think?