Hi - I have been in Plan B for the last 10 months. My husband and I just started counseling together. However I can't picture ever getting back together if only for the amount of time that has passed. Does anyone know of anyone who separated or even divorced and then got back together?<BR> Kris

Quakermom,<BR>I don't have exactly the criteria you are looking for, but I have the timeline. We were separated 7 times, 14 out of 21 months. The longest & last separation was 5 months, and I served D papers. We've been back in the same household and in recovery for a little over a year.<P>------------------<BR>Lor<BR>"Whatever is true, honorable, just, pure, lovely, gracious...think about these things." Phil 4:8

Hi Lor - I remember you from last year at this time when I was posting more often. I just can't see if after 10 months of not even speaking we could ever reunite. We did a similiar stay/leave thing prior to my Plan B Which is what drove me to it when my husband came and left 4 times in the months prior to our last separation. How did you ever get to a place where you could reconnect?<BR> Kris

Quakermom- I just wanted to say that I am just 4 mo past d-day but we had even gotten to the point where there was no kissing or sex between us for 6 mo and he filed for divorce on me about 6 wks ago at the urging of OW( though he claimed it was for his own reasons) but then came out of his 'fog ' briefly enough to cancel them. Now we are finally starting counseling for REAL without his quitting( I hope) and our intimate life came back full force recently. So I just wanted to say that its possible. I really thought we would never get back to this point though I prayed alot that God would guide our decisions. lifeismessy

For an extreme.....<P>My SIL and her H divorced b/c of an affair years ago. They HATED each other. More than five years later, after not seeing each other for years, they met again and started dating. They're remarried, quite happily and have been for years.<P>Nothing's impossible.<P>Lori

Lostva- WOW!! That story tops anything I've heard. I don't know where we are going at all. It's good to hear from you. You were helpful to me in the past. Thanks<P>Lifeismessy-Glad to hear that things are improving for you. keep my fingers crossed.<BR> Kris

My husband and I were separated due to military orders for about a year and a half, though we saw each other every 3 or 4 months. This is while he was involved with his affair--though I didn't know he was with her, things weren't good and we planned to divorce. We were together for about 2 months, then we separated again for another year. We just got back together. The same month we did, he left again for an overseas deployment. We have not really had a chance to work on reconciliation yet.

My H and I lived apart for over a year after basically living apart while together in the same house for a year. We have been back together a year this September. Things are going well.

Quakermom,<P>My h and I were seperated and he lived with ow #1 for a year and a half. When she left I came home. It can happen. We have been back together for about 15 years now. <P>If H is willing to go to counseling and you want the marriage by all means go. The biggest mistake I made when h and I got back together was not getting help for us. We just started up again. I believe that may be part of the reason he cheated again 3 years ago. There was no building of the marriage, no discussing the issues, no consequences.<P>IMHO now is the time for lots of prayer. And self examination to decide what YOU want to do next.<P>------------------<BR>Deb<P>Hepatitis C, Please educate yourself ! <A HREF="http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In" TARGET=_blank>http://www.hepatitis-central.com/<P>In</A> memory of a very dear friend <A HREF="http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp" TARGET=_blank>http://fathom.org/teemingmillions/wally.adp</A>

QM,<P>My parents divorced after my mother's lengthy affair. They were apart for almost <B>10 years</B> but reunited and have been together now for 3 years.