I am pretty new at this, have only posted one other time, but received great advice and am posting again. My wife (at the time) had an affair in a year and a half ago, the OM still comes into her place of buisness as a customer, I know because I am the person who reviews the security tapes for this buisness, she is constantly calling me names, de-grading me etc. to him, he knows that I know because I have confronted him, She states that there is nothing going on between them and that when they dide that it had been a mistake, but there are times that this OM comes into the buisness and does not buy anything. Wife takes her vehicle to him to get fixed because all he charges her for is parts and not labor. I should also mention that when she had the affair, that she met him by taking her vehicle there to get fixed, and then the next thing they knew the were having lunch and so-on, I get upset about all of this when she take s the car there, but have also found out that she still takes it there behind my back for oil changes, tire rotations etc. Yes, he is saving us money, but there is no price that I would not pay to save our marriage. She denies everything of course, so with these and many more sign's, is she still having an affair?? I say she is, what do you think? What should I do?

I don't know whether or not your wife is having an affair but I can tell you that any relationship with a person of the opposite sex that is kept a secret is wrong. Tell her that in order for the two of you to work on your marriage that there should be no contact between the two of them. Let her know that you will be happy to pay another mechanic whatever it costs to fix her car. Saving money on auto repairs is not as important as saving your marriage.

Your wife's actions, even today, amount to an affair. Even if it was not a PA affair anymore, it is at least an EA. And she seems to flaunt at least some of it in front of you. She is obviously very angry with you.<P><BR>Have you read the material on this website and Dr. Harley's book "Surviving an Affair"? That book and the material will tell you where to start and what to do.<P>The good people on this web site can give you the support you need to carry out plan A.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Well I had a security video to review last night at her work and BAM, there she was with her boss (whom is supposed to a friend of mine) talking about this other guy, and to top it all off, she took him lunch that day, I confronted her with the tape and she says that there is nothing going on and that he had asked her to bring him and his boss lunch, but she is telling her boss other stuff that I had difficulty hearing, but sounded like him (other man) telling her that she should put me out etc., She say's that she is trying, once again, she deny's that there are any wrongdoings going on, Note: She has never brought me lunch.