Hello, I have a very unique problem... My husband has a very young female friend of 26 who he calls many many times a month even though I have shown my anger and disappointment to this "friendship". She used to work here (we work together) and all she did was flirt with him and spent much too much time with him. Now that she is not at the same work location, they talk sometimes 3 times a day or more and I have phone records that he has called her over 110 in one month. They at one point had secret email accounts to each other also. He states that she is just a friend and I am being unreasonable. I can not handle this friendship any longer. He even called her on our work phone to the tune of 244.00 in 3 months which he had to pay for. I was humiliated by this. ALso last year when she was here, people all over talked about them having an affair. I again was humiliated. I need this to stop... How can I make it stop?? He just seems to be addicted to her...

<BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by talkntoya:<BR><B>Hello, I have a very unique problem... </B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P><BR>Hi Talk,<BR>Nope, not unique at all, as you'll discover the more you explore and read on this site. I'm kind of sorry that I am the first one to reply to you because I am still considered new here myself. One of the regulars will respond, I am sure, and give you some good links to go to (on this site)and I reommend that you visit those places and read all that you can. <P>I just wanted to share something real quick with you: my H also had a 'friendship' with an adoring female and eventually, he gave in to it. How far it actually went, I do not know but I actually found a snail-mail letter she sent to him that showed me they had a little thing going on there. That was my "D Day:--discovery day-- which you will learn about on this site as well as a lot of other terms and expressions. Anyway, like you, I agonized for a bit over whether or not this letter proved anything. Of course, when confronted with it, my H denied ever seeing it before. Talk about being in denial!<P>When I went to see a lawyer to find out my rights just in case of a split up, she said this about that letter:<BR>"It was a personal letter from a woman WHO IS NOT HIS WIFE, and that should say it all." Period.<P>You're talking about over a hundred calls a month between your H and this woman? Let me ask you: does he call YOU that much? To me, even one call a month to another woman who is not his wife is too much. <P>You'll learn...just keep on visiting and reading the things on this site.<P>Sorry for the pain you are in, but hang on...the going might get rough and you will need to be very strong.<P>Sending prayers your way,<BR>Winny

Hi talk!<P>First read everything you can on this site. The discussion forums are a good place to ask q's and vent. Weekends and holidays can be a little slow.<P>Read the recommended books, such as 'His Needs, Her Needs,' and 'LoveBusters.'<P>for a general welcome go to: <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000553.html</A> <P>You are not unique. I found out about my H's A in much the same way... Too many cell phone calls, secret email accounts. <P>Good luck! We're here to listen and support you.<P>------------------<BR>Cali<P>"Humble yourselves, therefore,under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." <P>1 Peter 5:6-7