WH 37 <BR>UDOW(Ugly Disgusting OW) 30<BR> <BR>

H was 33 (I was 39) and she was 43 but told him she was 39?<BR>LOL - BTW her husband was 33!

I was 38, OM was 38 (his wife 36)<BR>My H is 40 and I have no idea who his OW is (yet).<BR>

answered this also on your other thread: H is about to turn 39, I am 37. Early? MLC seemed to begin when H was 35. Met OW when she was 18, he 36. EA developed within a year, PA within two years. We've been married 12 and a half years, together 15 years. octavia99<p>[This message has been edited by octavia99 (edited June 05, 2001).]

My husband was 30 and I was 32. Interesting because I just posted a similiar post on the divorce board only it talked more about the length of the marriage before divorce, or affair. The article I was referring too mentioned the length of marriage having to do with the couple surviving the affair or not. Here is my post from the other board.<P>I read an interesting article awhile back that commented that women who wanted a divorce and usually didn't change their mind were usually in more long-term marriages and men who wanted a divorce and didn't change their mind were usually in short-term marriages. I found that interesting because I was married for 11 yrs. before wanting a divorce and my husband was married for 5 years when he wanted his divorce. Just curious....I do think that the longer the marriage the more chance of the couple trying to work it out. I would think the more history that they have between them would make it harder to divorce. Thoughts?<P> <BR> <BR> Hop to:

My wife (WS) was 44, OM was a bit younger, OM's wife was a bit older, I was 46.<P>As we can see so far, I don't think there's a correlation with age - at least not physical age.<P>MLC's can happen anytime, based on my reading. But for some, as in my wife's case, I believe it's a life crisis that triggers the need for an escape from reality. For her it was the death of our younger son. <P>OM's excuse will probably be a MLC when he finally gets to the point of being able to admit doing anything wrong - anything to avoid blaming his own character. But actually, he was just a selfish opportunist who grabbed at the opportunity to feed his overinflated ego.<P>WAT

H is 42- definitely having a HUGE midlife crisis. I am 38- never imagined I'd be going thru this with him after 15 yrs of marriage. There MUST be something about turning 40- one of the pastors I visited about H's behavior actually guessed his exact age when I described what H had been doing. His entire value system has gone whacko this year- when I told the relatives that he filed for D on me to chase after OW they were so shocked they thought I was hallucinating! Dont I wish it was all 'in my head!" Then I wouldnt be taking a megadose of effexor every day and sleeping pills! GEESH-I"ll be glad when his libido slows down!lifeismessy

H was 46 when A first started. Is now 48yrs.;A just ended with same OW for second time. I'm 46rs. OW is 47yrs. H going through MLC big time but won't admit it. Is so concerned about his looks going and getting old. Daughter(22yrs.) says being around father (with the way he acts)is like being around a 19yr. old BOY! Accurate description--sad commentary!!!

I am 28...29 in August.<BR>My H is 29....30 in July. He seems to be trying to recapture his youth...noticing little things he's doing.<BR>Maybe very early MLC?<BR>Been married 10 years....together 14 years.

Hey,<P>W is 27 , OM is 42!! I am 28. I worked out with OM 5 days a week while he pumped me for info about my wife so that he could tell her what I was saying about her. We all work together. Both are on anti-depressants. Isn't life swell!

I'm BS 33, W is WS 33, married 10.5 yrs at A onset. A lasted 3+ months.<BR><P>------------------<BR>...Keeping a stiff upper lip<BR>-Scarlet Pumpernickle

He was just about to turn 35 when he started his affair. I was 31. The main OW was 38. I don't know about the rest of them, but one of them had little kids so she couldn't have been too old.

I (BS) was 32<BR>My H (WS) was 36<BR>The OP was 27. Thats 9 yrs difference but she had kids older than ours. Yuck.<P>Yes he was and still is in a MLC

H was 39 ow was 26