I thought these would be interesting questions for us all:<P>1. Would people who knew your WS been surprised to find out he/she was having an EMR?<P>2. If people who knew you both HAD to pickone of you as most likely to have an EMR would they pick you or your WS?<P>3. Would people who know your WS have thought of the OP as his her "type"?<P>My answers:<BR>1. The few people who did know aboou the A (which was only because I told them) were stunned. When I first had suspicions even his lifeling best friend told me "Fairydust, he is NOT that kind of a person."<P>2. They would have picked me, hands down. I was the free spirited artist. He was Mr. Conservative.<P>3. No way! He never would have brought her (or anyone like her) home to meet his family. My MIL thought it was scandalous that we lived together before we got married. But at least I was a "nice Catholic girl". The OW had an illegitimate child and had already lived with a whole bunch of men.

My answers fairydust:<P>1.Surprised? shocked. dismayed. angry. Everyone is in serious disbelief and thought I was making it up at first. Especially that it had become physical.<P>2. Neither...although he had a more 'casanova' reputation when I first met him. He always put down guys or ladies who 'stepped' out. Said 'Marriage is Forever' and that 'you work on it until you get it right.'<P>3. No way. She's married 4 times. MIL calls her the 'maneater' and has said she can never step one foot into her house. <P>------------------<BR>Cali<P>"Humble yourselves, therefore,under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you." <P>1 Peter 5:6-7