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This is a take-off on the how old was WS when affair happened. I would like to correlate the # of years married and possibly how many children there are.<P>Me. H is 40. I am 38. OW is 40. We have 3 children (7, 5 and 2) OW has 2 children (6 and 1) We have been married 12 years. OW is in 4th marriage, 2 1/2 yrs.

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You guys trying to get a jump on the next census? [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>Married 17 years, one son, age 12, one son deceased at age 8 1/2 in Aug. 99.<P>WAT

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Will be married 10 years as of June 22<P>3 kids ages 9 1/2, 4 1/2, and 1<P>H is 27 (almost 28), I am 28

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I'm 28....WS is turning 30 next month.<BR>Married 10 years last March....together 14 years.<BR>3 beautiful daughters ages 10, 4 and 3.<P>OW is 25...her H is 31...married 3 1/2 years. 2 children...3 and 1.<BR>

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Hi Cali- glad to see you posted today. I cant believe your H's OW is in her 4th marriage!? Hasnt she figured that out yet???? In my case I am 38 and H who had the A is 42. His A was with a single coworker who has no kids and is desperate to be married.She is in her mid thirties and just woke to see she FORGOT to have kids so she fantasizes about being my kids stepmom! ( sick!) There was always the joke around his dept that the guys there were always trying to find her a husband- I had no idea she'd latch onto MY H!She even befriended me too to throw me off track. We have 3 kids ages 14, 9 and 4. H is definitely midlife crazy- his emotions swing back and forth even more than my teenage daughters do!!!life IS messy!!!

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CAli- I forgot to add we've been married 15 yrs- I THOUGHT happily- until OW got involved. lifeismessy

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Me 49 (now 50), wife 50, 4k 23d, 19d, 17s, 15s together 28 years, married 23. Ow 49, 3k, m28yrs.

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Married 20 years total<P>Kids, 3, ages 20-19-16<P>ex-H's OW's all over the map on age, marital status, but latest one that he was with at the end of the marriage (he's still with her) is 42, married 3 times, still not divorced from third H (sep for years though, don't know why, don't care anymore).<P>The OM in my case was 42 and divorced, had a common-law wife he lived with for nine years. He had two sons under 13 who lived with their mother, 100+ miles away.

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I was married 11 years to my ex. My kids were 4 and 8 when affair started. He also had 2 kids. Was married 5 yrs. Kids were 1 and 3 at time affair started.

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Married 14 yrs<BR>3 girls Ages 10, 8, & 5<BR>I am 35 (BS)<BR>H is 39 (WS)<P>OW is 30 She has 2 girls 12, 10 & 1 boy 6<BR>She is divorced and looking for a man.

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We were married 20 years, with six children. The affair started when my H was almost 49. <P>The OW is a couple of years younger than he is, with three teenage children. Apparently out to do to another family what her H did to her.

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I (BS) am 28<BR>H (WS) is 27<BR>married 4 yrs this June 21st, together 6 yrs this July.<P>We have 4 boys together (the oldest, Andrew, in heaven since Sept...he was almost 4 yrs old).<BR>ds - 2yrs<BR>twin ds's - soon to be 4 months old<P>PA OW#1 is 33 (but looks like she's in her mid 40's..I kid you not!), is married, with one dd, 4 yrs old.<BR>PA OW#2 is 23, single mum of a 5 month old son, living in a shelter, looking for her free ride I guess.<BR>EA Other womEn are aged 23 to 33.<P>( I guess I should be using the past tense with the OW, but no one is dead...too bad, so sad... hehehehe... H is out of the fog now, moving back by the end of July.. and hopefully still not having any contact with any of them...never too sure about that one...sigh!)<P>Karen<P>

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<BR>I was 40, H was 41, <BR>3 children 13,11,9<BR>married 17.5 years <BR>d-day was May 8, 2000 <BR>affair was about 1.5 months<BR>

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I am 26, my H is also 26. Had EA with 22 year old college student he was taking classes with, no kids for her.<P>We have 3 kids (6,2 1/2, 1). Been married 8 years on June 19th.

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Married 11 years this August.<BR>2 Children - 5yrs and 7 yrs<BR>I'm 42, H is 36

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Hi there...here ya go<BR>I'm 33 (BS)<BR>H is 36 (WS)<BR>OW is late 30's<BR>Been together 5 years, married for 4<BR>2 boys, 3 1/2, and 1 1/2

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We were married 11 years, he was 33 and I was 39.<BR>We had two children, my daughter and our son aged 18 and 10.<BR>We had been together for 15 years.<P>She was married for the third time and had four children. <BR>She was 43 told my H - she was 39!<P>D-day was Jan 3/99 - she moved into my home on my 12th wedding anniversay (Feb 12/99) after they lived in a hotel for one month.<P>Her oldest son was 19 - and was suing her for lack of support. (She left him behind when she moved to Alberta).<BR>Her next child was actually her husband's child from his first marriage. (Interesting he married her when he was 21?)<BR>They had two children together that were 10 and 8 at the time.<P>Everyone is reconciled now.

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Me: 44 Hubby: 45 OW: 50 <P>Married 25 years come October. Been together for 28+ years. Affair started five years ago and ended 6 months ago. H & I have two children, ages 16 and 13. OW has three children, ages 23, 14 and 11. She is twice divorced and is on the lookout for good, gullible and gracious men in desperate need of a thorough "cleansing" of morals and money. Pardon the sarcasm........ [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P>D-day was two weeks ago.........although I suspected for years...GEEEEEEEEEEEZ! Fellow MB members.......go with your instincts.....they are seldom wrong [Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]<P> <P>------------------<BR><B>Time heals all wounds as long as you DON'T pick at them!</B><P><p>[This message has been edited by GeezLouise (edited June 05, 2001).]

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WEll, I was 37 when the affair happened. So was hubby.<BR>WE had been married for 15 years - without any problems until then.<BR>WE have 2 children that were 4 and 7 at the time.<BR>Kat<BR><P>------------------<BR>"Each and everyone of us is deserving of a gentle thougth, a kind word and the gift of understanding"

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We had only been marreid a year and a half when he had his A! I had a miscarriage about 2 months before it started which is what we believe triggered his depression. I found out I was pregnant the day after he announced he was leaving. (Insert whole long story) We now have 2 kids and he is a great Dad.<P>OW is 13 years younger than H. Never been married, has one child which she is desperately searching for a Daddy for (preferably one with money).


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