This is about two couples, who are friends of mine. One male and the other female are cousins. The other two go horse-back riding, the cousins aren't interested at all. The other two ALWAYS take someone else with them, without fail. Well the W of one is now convinced there will eventually be an affair, she has drawn in her cousin on her beliefs and gotten him in an uproar! She has ZERO interest in riding, and the M rides some but isn't experienced like the other is and, so it's just a big mess. Anyway both riders have decided they aren't gonna budge on their hobby, that they have done no wrong, tried to include their spouses but they want no part, one couple is having other problems and I think the other wife in the couple is concerned about her H being around the W who he rides with if she may be no longer married. Hope you can understand this, I can see both sides just wanted another opinion, I'll clarify if need be. THANKS

I must admit to being a little cross eyed after reading the story. Didn't quite follow fully but got the main point I think. <P>You might want to show your friends the following two links to help them answer these questions for themselves, since it is their marriage to save or not after all, let them decide if their marriage needs some work. (Which to say the least I would say it does but stopping riding may or may not be the only solution or even the best depending on what the real problems are.)<BR> <A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5059_qa.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/graphic/mbi5059_qa.html</A> <BR> <A HREF="http://www.oprah.com/phil/real/phil_real_main.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.oprah.com/phil/real/phil_real_main.html</A> <BR>

Scared,<BR> Thanks I know it's hard to get the picture, I appreciate your responce. Talk about Phil/Oprah!! LOL <BR>I told my friend she and her H should go on that show,<BR>I'd like to see what Dr. Phil would say! Thanks Again!!