Nothing ever changes.It's been over 3 months since d-day and my H never changes. He comes to visit me (lives with OW) and then leaves. He always acts exactly the same way. H is always polite, never talks about the A,never gets angry , just acts like some kind of robot!!!He always makes small talk.Then he goes home to his trashy OW. I wish he would get mad or tell me he hates me or loves me -even better, but he's always soooo calm and cool.What is going on here???? Anyone else have WS's like this? Any insights?

Oh, yes, I remember those days well.<P>So confident, so sure that this is what they want...for the best...so wonderful...so different...What?....a fantasy you say....No, no way!!!!!<P>That was before everything began to fall apart (about the 4th month)...then suddenly he was not quite so confident and sure about what he wanted....not that I ever got to see much of that...but learned about it later...from OW of all people.<P>So hang in there, his time is coming...and believe me it will be so bad "you'll be feeling sorry for him". I know I did (because we love them I suppose and you hate to see anyone you love suffer...even if they deserve it). No one get out of life without paying for their mistakes...for some it just takes a while.<P>Have you considered Plan B...that might take some of the wind out of his sails....and unset his carefully constructed fantasy world just a bit. Enough so that, like the house of cards that it is, it comes tumbling down. Because in some ways, we BS still maintain some of the structure of WS's life and without our support they have no one to support them but OW....wouldn't you hate to count on that if you were WS. <P>Faye<P><BR>

Thanks for the encouragement Buffy. It was just what I needed. I have been thinking about plan B alot lately. I think I will start it after Father's Day.10 days left in plan A and counting!How did the OW end up telling you about your H?