This is mainly for the guys, but you girls are welcome to add your thoughts too. <P>Today, ex says to me that uys think about sex all the time and are all in to porn, etc. Some just hide it better than others. I disagree totally. I think this is just his very sick mind talking, but I would love to hear what your thoughts are on this<P>

<P>I think male or female, everyone thinks about sex daily, some perhaps more than others, I don't think everyone is into porn.<P>

mommy2_3,<P>I think about sex a lot. Specifically, I think about having sex with my wife a lot. I am not into porn, nor do I think most men are. <BR> <BR>SHA

My experience says that 90% plus guys are into porn. This has been a real issue for me in my marriage and I have learned from my guy friends, even the ones you'd never guess, are into porn. Sorry to break your heart, it hurts mine too because I do not want to have it as a part of my life. <P>LL

My H and OW are both into porn. When I got back into our house a few days ago via a temporary restraining order, there was a large purple dildo suctioned onto the shower wall (in an unlikely place for anything I could imagine!). There were numerous videos, lotions and oils all over the house, etc. My H even had shared with the kids his favorite sex acts with OW, and she shared with them that he preferred her because she had sex in his favorite position, something I couldn't because of hemorrhoids...not to mention it's not MY favorite!<P>We've been together for 19 years and I always felt, after the first few years, that he wasn't very interested in sex, so maybe it's me... OW is 22, H is 48 and I'm almost 50. <P>Even worse, I found out that H and OW are heavily into drugs since a fairly large quantity of methamphetamines and syringes were found in the house, which I turned over to the police.<P>Sex was definitely an unmet EN for me and I guess it was for him too, though the increasingly pornographic taste for sex seems to have been fueled by substance abuse.

LL,<BR><B>My experience says that 90% plus guys are into porn.</B><BR>90%?!?<P>What “experience” are you talking about?<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

What's the song say? I think it's "every six seconds" that guys think about sex.<P>The porn? It's an addiction (like heroin or cigarettes, for real) and not every guy is into it.<P>I'm not a guy, by the way, just in case you're wondering...

Chris:<P>I guess that did sound kind of weird, huh! The "experience" I am talking about is just talking to guys. I have real problem with porn in my life. I do not want my H to be interested in it, so I ask a lot of guys if they surf porn on the net, rent movies etc. I have found that most do and was quite surprised at first. If we divorce, this is a question I will ask of any future mate because I think it is disrespectful to the female if it bothers her.

I don't know about 90% but I'm sure it's high (it's kind of like the male response for masturbation, everyone does it but none admit it). <P>I also think it's a phase for most men. I was into it for a while now it doesn't interest me at all.<P>I forgot...about the sex...6 seconds is pretty frequent but I'd say men definitely think about more than women<p>[This message has been edited by dumbdumb (edited June 08, 2001).]

Thanks to all that responded. I'm not saying there is anything wrong with thinking about sex, but it seems to take up most of my ex's thoughts and time on the computer. I am not referring to the "occasional" magazine, but with the hardcore porn!<P>SHA,<P>Thanks for such an honest opinion. It is my belief that not all men are into porn either. I'm so glad to know that there are a few of you guys out there.<P><BR>LL,<P>I can't imagine that there are that many guys into that stuff! <P><BR>LetSTry, <P>Now, I could picture my ex into all of that except the drugs. So his is definitely not substance abuse related. However, he does seem to be attracted to women that are also into that sort of thing. I'm glad you turned the drugs over to the police...Maybe it will be a big eye opener for him!<P><BR>

LearningLife,<P>Hope you didn’t misinterpret my post. I wasn’t implying anything. Just that “90% plus guys are into porn“ seems very high.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>

I am not into porn, and think it is a very dangerous habit. Nor do I think 90% men into it. Further I would (after plan B) suggest any woman married to a porn user divorce them, and definitely not date a porn user.

Well, being your typical red-blooded American male, the answer is yes and no.<P>Yes, I think about sex all the time. But no, I don't use porn. When I got my first internet connection about 1995 I was like a kid in a candy store for about two weeks. After that, nothing.<P>I am the same way about strip clubs. I actually used to manage a strip club. But in the ten years since I quit, I have been to one maybe twice or three times. As I tell my partner, why just look when I can be home and look and touch. <P>Besides, the beer is much cheaper at home