I'm not sure where to begin. I found out this year that my husband has been having an affair for almost a year. He moved to another city for a job transfer and the kids and I followed 6 months later. It took a lot longer for us the sell the house etc. When I arrived to the new town and house I find out that the affair has not ended. I should clarify that he use to travel frequently to this town where he recently took a new job, and this is where the affair took place. Now the kids and I are here and he is still seeing the OW. My H is still seeing this woman, calling her on the phone and also e-mailing her. We have been in marriage counseling for the past 2 months and not making much progress.<P>I cannot get the the real marriage issues at hand because she is still in his life. I guess I feel if he were genuinely committed to reconciliation with me he would end it with her and concentrate on our marriage.<P>I'm not sure how we can work on our problems when I feel he is still turning to her for support whether it be emotional or physical. <P>Am I crazy for hanging around hoping for him to change?

Hi Bambi,<BR>Welcome<BR>If you're crazy for hanging around and hoping....then this website is the loony bin! You're in GOOD company.<P>The "experts" (I can't do a link to save my butt) should be along soon with a welcome and some great stuff for you to read. Oh....and it is a little slow around here on weekends, so keep stopping by!<P>Good luck & God Bless<BR>Xman <BR> <BR>

Hi Bambi, I'm one of the 'crazy' ones too! My Mother-in-Law tells me that "I know he's my son, but he's not worth it, you should go and get on with your life" - well, she has 3 failed marriages under her belt, so I'm going to continue to be 'crazy' and NOT listen to her!<P>Yes, read everything on this website, believe in it, then go get your husband back. Everyone else might think you're crazy (even your husband), but we don't, and there are a lot of success stories on here to prove it works.<P>Good luck, Paint.