I woke uo to a 5:30 a.m. phone call from my WH this morning. He asked me to go to breakfast with him. The reason this is so different,as my recent post says, is that he has been in a robot like routine with me since he left 3.25 months ago.This is the first time he has visited me when the OW wasn't at work. He said he hadn't slept all night and wanted to know if I wanted to get something to eat. I said yes and we were at Ricki's by 6 a.m.(I didn't ask him why he hadn't slept all night and he didn't offer but we had a nice breakfast before we came back to my (our) home and he fell asleep on our bed. That's a first since he left too. He was up soon after and left for a meeting.I know better than to get too hopeful but I'm soooo happy he did something different. I have never seen him for a minute on a weekend since he left, except for when our daughter had her baby, until today.

This is great news Maezy!<BR>I believe he is starting to view you as the person he can come too when he is down!<BR>I mean if he couldn't sleep all night why didn't he talk to OW about it - unless she was the reason he couldn't sleep all night - novelty might be wearing off.<BR>This is what happened with my H - started calling and meeting me for lunch etc - now we are reconciled and he tells me he did those things because he missed me and just needed to see me and get away from her and the bad memories etc.<BR>Good luck - you handled this great!<BR>Now invite him for breakfast next week.

That is good news...I'm happy to hear it. I'd say keep doing what you are doing. Obviously he doesn't want to lose you, so hopefully his head defrosts soon and he comes to his senses.<P>Plan A sounds like the right thing for you, at least for now, because you are able to spend lots of time together.

Hi mrs axxemann<BR>I haven't seen any posts from you for awhile and was wondering what happened to you. It's so nice to get your post!I trust things are going well for you?<P>Yes, daughter and I are going to invite him for a nice dinner next Sunday(Father's Day). I expect he will accept.

Rick37<BR>I believe are right about plan A. I was very close to starting plan B but this does make a difference. Thanks again for your post!

YEAH!! It makes me so happy to see some of my friends making headway. You go girl!! Keep up the plan A! You're doing a great job.

Wow - I think he misses you!<BR>Keep us posted.

It is a hopeful beginning. Stay the course and see if his fog totally dissipates.<P>So plan A for now, but don't hesitate with plan B if you have to.<P>Godspeed and good luck,<BR>STL

Hi Maezy,<BR>So happy for you that there might still be some hope for you and your H.<P>I like Rick37's comments and esp. about your H's head defrosting. Another creative way to describe the "mental state" of a wayward spouse. <P>SElfishly, I wish taht my husband's head would be put under a blowdryer for extended time so that his head would defrost.<P>I had sent a Plan A letter and have not moved to a Plan B strategy yet...<P>Your husband appears on the fence...that is a good sign.<BR>My husband was on the fence many times...stopped two divorce hearings...called crying...and now he has "fallen down" into divorce yard of overgrown weeds. I keep telling myself that it is not because I didn't make the right moves..my husband is in denial about his alcohol abuse. Can't reason with a person like that. <P>I wish you the best, Maezy. Sincerely,elo

Hurtbyhubby- Thank you for your responce. It's encouragement like this that helps keep me going.<P>Alberta- So nice to hear from you again! I will keep you posted.<P>Seen the Light- Thanks for your responce and I'm thinking I might need to plan B if he sits on the fence too long.<P>elo-Sounds like a great idea!- The blow dryer ,I mean. These WS's can be a bunch of ice-heads.<BR>I think you are correct when you say you can't reason with <BR>someone in denial about his alcohol abuse.I think it only makes a complcated matter more complicated. I believe my H is a borderline alcoholic and likes to drink with her.<BR>You're also correct about your moves in this. He still has his choices to make and we really can't control them can we?<BR>If this happens on Friday I wish you all the best.<BR>((((HUGS))))<BR>Maezy