Thanks DLM, everything you told me is helping emencely. I guess now its just patience and endurance. Everyday we do hjave issues that pop up, I guess where both a little angry still. In counceling they told her to be more patient with me, to understand what I have been through. And they told me that I have to beleive in her and explain myself when something is bothering me. The funny thing is to me, they said never bring upn the past. WoW! I'll try, i guess this is so we can just move forward. Well here we go again. Thanks again, BIll

Bill,<BR>I am so glad that things are working. Please keep me posted on how things go. If you have any other questions that just pop up, feel free to ask. Don't worry if she has moments of withdrawal, it will happen as she works her way completely back to you. I have moments and I have shake them off and reaffirm to myself that I did the right thing.<BR>And then act upont that.<BR>Good luck and you are in my prayers.<BR>debbie

Ok, You asked for an update and I think I spoke to soon. Every day now there is a different issue that we dont agree on or that Lb's on us. Yesterday I Met her after work and we had another disagreement in the Morning, so I thought maybe when she got home I could give her a nice hug and tell her how much I loved her. Well She was playing with the kids and pretty much went the other way, I Confronted her with a big LB. You dont want to give your husband a kiss hello, and one thing led to another and I started walking out, telling her she was right this isnt going to work. She reaffirms that with me every so often. well after handing me the keys so that I can leave, she started to explain that I didnt really come to her, so I stayed for a little while before work. The therapist said she is not being there or not responding to me without knowing it, she's not doing this on purpose. The 3rd party contactys seem to be quieting though. But today I just feel like throwing in the towel. OH Boy, Bill P.S. Thanks for listening Deb.