Yesterday, I spent the entire day at the beach with my cop friend. It was just soooo perfect! We played in the water, we played in the sand, we sat on the beach and talked. I was thinking, "This is as good as it gets." On the way back from the beach, he stopped and made a phone call. Of course I just knew he was calling his baby's mama and telling her some sort of lie about where he had been all day. When we got back to Wallace, the town he lives in, and to his apartment, he had candles lit in his bedroom and roses on the bed for me. I was ECSTATIC. (Doesn't take much to make me happy huh? ) I asked him how in the world did he manage that. The phone call he made was to his brother. He told him he was on the way back and asked him to set it up.<BR>We took a long bubble bath together and then...well, MM didn't cross my mind AT ALL last night. he had to work day shift today but asked me to stay there until he got off. He came back to the apartment frequently throughout the day and gave me hugs and kisses and told me that he really cared a lot about me and that he wanted me to know how special I am to him. I wanted to believe him so bad but I remembered a post from here and wondered if I was getting spoonfed a line of crap or if he really meant it. He kissed me on my favorite spots---my forhead and the tip of my nose. I felt so good yesterday and today. When I got home this afternoon, my mom said MM had called yesterday and she told him I was out with a friend. He called this morning and left a message on the machine. His wife had the baby Friday w/o having to be induced. It was 8pounds and I forget how many ounces. I'm happy for him. I hope everything goes well for him, but I'm still on cloud ( from yesterday and today and I hope it lasts for at least a little while.

You're doing great it sounds. Enjoy being single and not involved in that mess anymore! <P>

Hi tooweak. I'm glad that you are doing better, and not that I want to rain on your parade, but I have so often heard that the best way to get over one person is to see someone else immediately. Rebound relationships sometimes end up hurting as much if not worse because you still have these feelings of euphoria that are simply transferred to another and then suddenly you're disappointed. <P>I myself (an xOW) am working on moving on and I am being pursued by an intelligent, wealthy, single, handsome man - what more can I ask for, right - but I'm not sure if I really like him or am if I'm just using him to help me forget. Is that fair to him and to myself? I don't know. <P>Just be careful not to hurt yourself or your friend on the rebound. Regardless, I agree with ScaredInNY - enjoy being single.<BR>

I think today has been my first completely MM-less day. No calls at all. Maybe he finally got the point. I digress to say that I miss him, but once you feel strongly about someone, you can't just turn the feeling on and off like a light switch. My cop is working tonight. In a way I hope something "good" happens so he can call and tell me about it, but then again, he just had a situation where he was chasing a guy at night and had to draw his weapon so I think that's enough excitement for the month. I don't want him to get hurt or anything. I'm on cloud 7 now. I've come down off of cloud 9 but I haven't fully come back to reality yet. Is it safe to say I'm no longer an OW yet?

I think that is a question to ask yoursef. Is it history? Two days is a great, I'm not putting you down at all, I just think you know in your heart whether or not your stil an OW or not. I don't though I'd like to say, no, your not. <P>If your cop friend is busy maybe you could go out with girlfriends or something to distract yourself tonite. Just a thought. Keep up the good work!<P>