Why does 38 seem so much older than 37? #30 didn't bother me. #35 didn't bother me. <P>I think this whole thing has skewed my perspective. Until recently 38 didn't bother me. (It's not that OW is younger either, she just turned 40.)<P>I think it's the prospect that I could very well be single in the future. Being 40 in a couple of years with 3 boys doesn't seem like a winning situation...NOT that I'm want to find someone else, but you start to think about stuff...the what-ifs.<P>He always said that it wasn't worth it to start over. I just want to lash out. Why are you making me start over. I don't want to, except with you.<P>Anyway, I digress.<P>I guess I should feel gratified that my birthday doesn't fall on Friday this year. Friday, the 13th! <P>Cali<P>

Cali, <P>I turn 52 this year... 38? Boy I'd like to be 38 again!! You are young and I am sure as beautiful on the outside as you are on the inside. Always remember that no matter how this turns out, you will not only survive but do very well. You are doing the work it takes to make sure that in either case you will come out ahead.<P>So Happy Birthday<P>Z<P><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Happy Birthday Cali!!!!!!!!!!!!!<BR> <P>I know your day would be much happier in other circumstances but I really wish you a good one. Hopefully with some positive signs to make it even better.<P>ON the other hand, don't expect too much of him. MY first bday after the affair - we were just starting in recovery, was one of the worse from the lot. SHe remembered it was my bday and decided to pick him up at work to go for a coffee and was able to keep him until very late. <P>But hey, my next bday was one of the best ever, so it kind of balances itself out <P>I have a surprise for you, but I will tell you tomorrow( I mean, later today lol), I'm quite tired right now.<P>Hugs<BR>kat<P><P>------------------<BR>"Each and everyone of us is deserving of a gentle thougth, a kind word and the gift of understanding"

Happy birthday to you,<BR>Happy birthday to you,<BR>Happy birthday to you,<BR>Happy birthday dear cali,<BR>Happy birthday to you!!<P>Be so glad that there is no sound with this thing, as my children fight over who has to sit next to me in Church!!!<P>I will be 39 in a few months, about the time we are do to seperate (due to a move, and fog) and I had some of the same thoughts about the starting over thing, starting at the bottom, I always thought that this would be the happy times, my kids are 19, 16, 10 we've moved so much, it's time to settle down and buy a house. Not!!!<P>cali I can really relate to how you are feeling today.<P>Hugs to you, go do something just for you!! Go get a birthday cake to share, or get an ice cream. Just do something that will mark the day as special for you. Pretend that crown is on your head and hold it high!!!<P>Happy b day!!<BR>

Cali- BON ANNIVERSAIRE!!!!!!!( Thats Happy B-day en francaise) Gotta put my college minor to use sometime! I turned 38 this year too- just 2 wks before finding out about H's A. We are BOTH still young believe me!When H filed on me I freaked and figured who would want me with 3 kids and me being 38 and single again? Well, when I called an attorney from my church to get a referral to a divorce attorney it turned out he himself was on the brink of D with his own wife- we spent several hrs comparing our situations and spiritual beliefs which we both had in common and he asked me out for coffee or a drink- LOL! Of course I didnt accept but it sure as heck made me feel a bit better- even at the lowest point when I was crying and in despair someone showed interest in me! Now H and I are in recovery but even if we werent, I have come to learn that I can manage and that I have a future with H or without him. Beauty comes from the inside out! lifeismessy PS However having said that I must confess I am addicted to Lancome Renergie eye cream!

Happy Birthday, Cali! <P>I hope you are able to enjoy your day, in spite of everything. <P>{{{{Cali}}}}

Happy Birthday! <P>Popping open a good bottle of wine for everyone who has ever had a spouse screw their birthday- (give me a big glass please).... A toast to the new Stronger Cali!! Happy Birthday!! <P>

Happy Birthday Cali! I still have 2 months of being 37 left - and I'm dreading my birthday because we got married on my 21st birthday, so it will be our 17th wedding anniversary on the same date! Will birthdays ever be the same again, I ask myself!<P>Go and buy yourself a HUGE birthday cake - and we'll all have a bit! Hope your day goes well for you,<P>love Paint.

Happy, Happy, Joy, Joy <P>~Sheryl<p>[This message has been edited by Nyneve (edited June 13, 2001).]

Happy birthday Cali, Hey, You're YOUNG, girl! I will turn 50 in less than 2 months and H left me for 22 year old OW, imagine how OLD that makes me feel...<P>Have a great day knowing that you are loved here at MB and we all understand and share your pain and fears for the future. Have faith. I know things will turn out ok for all of us, even if not the way we might have planned.

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