Well Tropical Storm Allison has managed to do over $2billion <BR>worth of damage to the HOuston area, but beware Gulf Coast Hurricane Sing is about to let loose.<P>My wonderful DWH after waffling for days has finally decided to quit his job & move back here to OW. I was not caring enough when he was struggling, I was calling him or emailing him non stop, never mind that I really didn't have access to do either. Plus we got a repport from the witch lady shrink & she bascially said that we had been bad parents for 17 yrs & the A had little to do with OS acting out. Usuing all of these factors DWH can justify his actions plue the DOW gave him make up your mind speech, so he did.<P>I have say I am at peace, it is over, there is no going back. I no longer have to wait for the other shoe to drop, it finally has. After 2 yrs of this nightmare & most especailly the hell of the last yr, I don't think I have much love left for my DWH, he has killed it all. I don't wish him happiness or peace, I hope he is utterly miserable but I think his A maybe one of the love A, he maybe very happy with the little money grapping tramp.<P>The lawyer I consult was literaly wringing his hands when he heard about DWH paying the DOW's rent etc.<P>I am ready to fight. I am tried of being nice what did that get me.<P>Sorry I don't have time to read updates. Hope you all are doing well, I think & pray for all of you. Well till I can get back to a computer later.

My dearest Sing,<P>I feel those winds whipping up all the way up here in CA. That is one big storm a brewing. Unleash all that is pent up inside. Give it all and let is settle here. WE are here for you. <P>I have to disagree with the counselor but since I am not a professional, just one who is a living the nightmare (feel a bit more qualified now than before), I feel that my opinion as well as many here carry more weight. It is one thing to study people's personalities and make a living off of it but quite another to live it!!!!<P>As far as your H losing his marbles, I doubt he will be happy, but let him try. You are able to be at peace. You are reaching the acceptance stage. You gave your best and will continue to do so. You have to live with what your accomplishments are in life and so does your H. Too bad they are not together as they used to be. Over all you are not the loser in this situation. While you and your children will feel the initial loss, we both know who the real loser is. Life has a way of educating the stubborn. It make take a bit longer but the lesson is eventually learned. How and when is the constant changing factor. <P>You know all of this. I am just reminding you. Don't ever forget you are a great woman, mother and wife. Don't depend on the opinion of 1 person, depend on yourself and your children. The imput of those here at MB may be helpful also. <P>We care a great deal for you. <P>Take care my friend,<BR>L.<BR>

Hmmmmmm... the winds/words are even whippin' way up here to Canada! Blech, blech and triple blech.<P>That counselor needs a slap upside the head, for one thing. <P>I am so sorry, sing. <P>(((((sing)))))<P>Vent away, dearheart, we are here for you.<P><P>------------------<BR>~Sheryl<P>And we know. We who have seen. ~Pellegrino

<B>sing</B>,<P>I almost want to say that maybe your H really belongs with the shrink lady. What a couple of boobs.<P>Well, I'd say that as long as your satisfied with what you did to save things, and with your Plan A, then it's time for Plan B. Just take care of you and the boys, including whatever legal moves you need to make. Avoid contact with him. When the whole A falls apart, as is still likely, you can decide whether it's worth trying again.<P>Take out your anger some other way than on him, just avoid him. Show the kids that at least one of their parents has both an idea of right and wrong and a willingness to protect others.<P>What is the saying, living well is the best revenge?<P>Feeling for you,<P>Steve<p>[This message has been edited by StillHers (edited June 16, 2001).]

Sing,<P>Sorry to hear that you are surrounded by complete idiots. <BR>your H and OW deserve every bit of what they have coming to them. <BR>Thank God, you are at peace. Maybe now, things can start to fall in place for you and your children. You are the strong stable one, don't forget that.<P>cleo

Dear Sing<P>i e-mailed you before I read this. Suspected this was the case. I admire you greatly!! Get on with your life gal! You and I have shared a lot in common - and soon after your hurrican is through I suspect mine will start! Sounds like global warming is about to shot up a degree or two!!! Look after yourself. Good luck with OS. The witch lady is just that !!! Should I go and caste a spell on her while I am in Singapore????<P>Rosie