I just returned from lunch with a friend who informed me that my H was seen at a work picnic with the OW (her work). Maybe this would normally not seem too strange since he has openly stated that he wanted to be with her, but he used to work at the same place before he was fired for having A's with three women. (The current OW and two subordinates.)<P>His affair with the current OW has been going on for almost two years, with the two others lasting 2 - 3 months each during that same time frame. First I can not imagine the OW staying at that job (I would be too embarassed since everyone knows about it) and second I can not believe my H could be seen at the picnic with people he used to work with. Do these people have any common sense? I would never be able to show my face around people I used to work with if I was fired for something like that. <P>I hope this is all fog behavior, because if he is truely that messed up I don't think I want him back. Are there any others out there that have similar instances of stupidity to share or is my H crazier than most?

If it is insanity, I hope it's temporary.<P>My H took us over to OW's house for a barbeque with her family. He invited her to Middle son's birthday. He our children met her and her children at the movies. He went to her house to work out with her H. And, even once they went to PA, he took us to her daughter's first birthday party.<P>He continued to go to her school club's sponsored activities and take the children there---even took all of us to a sponsored fundraiser by her club....<P>Doesn't see anything wrong with it, "as when he leaves he will have the boys around lots of people." <P>Over my visitation orders.....<P>------------------<BR>Cali<P><I> Humble yourselves, therefore, under God's mighty hand, that he may lift you up in due time. Cast all your anxiety on him because he cares for you. </I><BR>1 Peter 5:6-7

<"I hope this is all fog behavior, because if he is truely that messed up I don't think I want him back"><P>Just a suggestion, but letting yourelf get angry is ok. He's done alot to be angry about. I think maybe you are starting to finally get the gumption to make a good Plan B move. I don't see where you have alot of options, but maybe I'm wrong. Been wrong befoe, feel free to slice me to pieces if you'd like guys.<P>I think that Plan A is not meant to be a never ending plan. If your love units are getting drained and his behavior is not stopping, then maybe plan B might shake him up better. Just a thought. Try reading about Plan A/ Plan B again and see what you think. Have you had any phone consults with the Harley's at all?<P><BR>

Scared, <P>thanks for your reply. I am actually in plan b right now. I have been in plan b for about 4 weeks. Unfortunately I have friends that think that I need to know everything that is going on with H. I would be much better off using this time to think about and care for myself and I guess I will have to tell all of my friends that I do not need any information regarding what H is doing unless they find out about the A ending or that he wants his marriage back.<P>I am trying to do things that make me stronger. I have been losing weight and working out a lot, I am looking for a place of my own to live (currently living with parents which I think is seen a weak by H) and generally doing things to make me feel better and get me through the days. <P>I can only hope that at the end of this storm is a rainbow waiting. And the rainbow would be especially nice if my H were there too.