I was just wondering how many of your or your spouses other peoplr post here?.....and why the hell do they do that?...and how did they know you posted here? im sorry its upsetting to me that i come here for support and have to change my name every so often so OW doesnt know who i am..... Like i want that hussy reading my innermost thoughts.<BR>another thought, too bad the admins could trace IPs and ban them if we knoww hich name thay are using today<BR>

Just have to learn to deal with it is all. The XOW in my case showed up and posted on my own thread. I'm sure she still reads my posts here as well...<BR><P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie

You could not come up with a better name then the one you did? Just asking!

I found out that two of my h's other women used to hang out here a lot.. that was before they were involved with my H. When they were BS. They used to pop in on me in chat to see if I was doing ok.. so one time I mentioned this site (stupid me) and they told me they were aware of it and come here sometimes. I have no idea if they are out there reading my posts, it would not be hard for them to figure out who my H and I were on here. Our's is something of a unique story. But these particular OW are not ones I'm too afraid of. They seem to be decent people, they did not know he was married. They are both still married but in the process of long drawn out divorces.<P>Sometimes I wonder who is out there. But I get so much from this forum that I guess I don't care. As much as I love my H and as much as I want our marriage to work out. If he is so inclineded to ever enter into an affair again, he knows where the door is.<P>Do you think I'm entering into the anger stage of grieving over this affair thing???? LOL<P>Z<P><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

<"Sometimes I wonder who is out there. But I get so much from this forum that I guess I don't care. As much as I love my H and as much as I want our marriage to work out. If he is so inclineded to ever enter into an affair again, he knows where the door is."><P>Zorweb if it's anger then I'm there too, cause I agree with this statement 100%!! At first I was afraid of posting things just incase that were too easy to figure out if she saw it- then I came to the conclusion you stated above and decided- this is for me- and I don't care!<P>

My H's OW did post here under 2 different user names. She left for the first time when she had posted saying who whe was and asked whether or not she should be here - the resounding answer was "NO!! Since my H and I were here this was contact and should not happen find another site!!!" She left the second time when she found out that people new who she was again (she certainly didn't hide it very well ).<BR>She had popped in here a few times in the early spring of the this year always stating to the person she was posting to..."Gee the one day I pop in here and I see a post for you what a coincidence..." yea right!<BR>I still am not too sure if she reads here still I wouldn't be a bit surprised if I found out she did.<BR>It did bother me and I guess it still does a bit - why can't she keep her frickin' nose out of my business!! - but life goes on and it is an open forum that everybody should have the right to use...but sometimes out of common decency you'd think they would stear clear. JMHO<P>My statement above was directed not at OP's in general but to the OP's of people (and their spouses) who are already posting here.<BR>Sorry if I sounded judgemental - didn't mean to! <BR><p>[This message has been edited by Patient Love (edited June 19, 2001).]

Patient Love,<P>You say out of common decency? The entire problem with the OW/OM is that they have no common decency. If they did they would not be involved in affairs with married people. <P>So there is no use even thinking they would show any.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare