for all the ws who did return to their spouses, how long did it take and what made you decide to go back? did any of you ever sit on the fence?

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<B><BR>for all the ws who did return to their spouses, how long did it take and what made you decide to go back? did any of you ever sit on the fence?<BR></B><P>Everyone is different. Every one of our time frames is different as well. It's not a certain timeline for any of us. So while I may have taken a shorter amount then some to get off the fence, and return. For others it may have been shorter or longer yet. I sat on the fence for a while myself. Fluxuated back and forth between my wife and (xow) for a while. Then jumped off and headed for the (xow) for awhile. Now here I am... Wide awake and headed home.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie<p>[This message has been edited by [H] (edited June 23, 2001).]