You really need to be here at MB a little longer, please take some time to read through all of this, and to lurk on some of the posts and threads to see what we are all about.<P>Last year at this time, I was so confused about my H's anger, hostility, withdrawal - now I know "fog" too. I did not know about MB, and the MB principles, His Needs, Her Needs, etc. All I knew was my H had an EA with a "family friend". Where do we get friends like this? There was a story - but now I know about withdrawal, Love Busters, Needs, and family.<P>MB will help you - we will help you learn. Knowledge is power. Marriages can be great. If he doesn't want a divorce. . . Remember it takes alot more work to make a marriage, it is easier just to end it; and Divorces have to be earned.<P>Please reply asap & before your papers are signed.

hi after shock,<P>i responded to your post in my original thread. was it dr. phil that said divorces have to be earned? i think i've earned my right to get out of this marriage. i tried everything i could to save this marriage but when there's a third party, it's impossible. my h wants me to wait this out until he comes to his senses? why on earth would i subject myself to more misery? he wants his cake and eat it too. there's no way i'm playing that game.

confusedpuppy -<BR>What Plan A/Plan B stuff have you done?

hi after shock,<P>please read my responses on the post entitled what is he thinking. thanks.