Hi. Not here to berate you in any way, but I did see your other post and it intrigued me.<P>Our situations sound similar but on opposite ends. My H told me straight out when the EA started and has filled me in as things progressed. We were best friends, but also had true love (even he will admit to) at one time.<P>Why do you feel it is okay for you to be involved with OM as long as your H knows all the details? If he truly was your best friend, why is it OKAY to cause him so much pain? Why would anyone deliberately hurt their best friend when they know what they could do to make the pain go away?<P>I just don't get what goes through WS's mind to make this OKAY and the right thing to do. Even if you did find true love with OM, how is it possibly worth all the pain it has caused, especially to your best friend? How do you live with yourself knowing how much you have hurt your H? <P>Can you fill me in?<P>Thanks,<BR>HbH

Hi Cascade. Just bumping this. I really meant no harm here, just trying to get a better understanding of what may be going through my H's mind and how he lives with his decisions.<P>It baffles my mind and I don't understand it. I thought you could help.<P>Thanks.<BR>HbH

Hi Cascade. My apologies. I just read Zorweb's post and read some of your other postings. You probably should have put a link in that last thread of yours!! <P>I see now that our situations are not that similar. I did not realize my questions do not pertain to you.<P>Good luck getting your H to work on the marriage!

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