This is from the other thread we were talking on. Didn’t want to bog down girlscouts thread.<P><B>Plan B is assuming you have some contact.<BR>My wife left over two years ago & I haven’t seen her since. Haven’t spoken to her since Feb. I have mailed her cards & short letters since she left, but January was the last.<BR>If I were to send a Plan B letter, I’d look pretty sad. So I just wait until I decide to file.</B><BR>Gosh, 2 years! I'm so sorry. HOW do you manage to keep going? I'm going crazy after only 1 month...I pray, and keep going, but I keep hoping that "any day now" he'll come to his senses. What is in your cards and letters? Plan A stuff? Or "just business"? Not trying to pry here,just understand how to Plan A or Plan B with NO CONTACT. <BR>NO WONDER you have such a good handle on this, you're living it every day.<P>I sent cards on birthdays & holidays. Just short notes, “hope everything is going well. Take care, blah, blah”. Stuff along those lines. Nothing about “us” or when she’s coming home. Keep it light and not about your relationship.<P><B>One month is not enough time for you or him to understand much of anything. Wait, read everything here & practice it.</B><BR>I am, I am. I know 1 month is not long. I just want to wake up and have this nightmare go away. I know, everyone says that! It's sooo true, though. It's as though you'll never have a "normal" life again after something like this.<P>You will have a normal life. It’s okay to feel like it’ll never end.<P>Chris, thank you again for answering all my questions. You do have tremendous insight. I know it has come at a dear price to you. But it will pay off in the end. You do not deserve to be treated in this manner for this long. I'm so sorry. If I could, I'd find your wife and SLAP SOME SENSE into her silly head!! (just joking)<P>If you see her, slap her once for me! No, really! <P><B>Did he actually file or just fill out the forms?</B><BR>I believe they have to be served by a process server, you sign a waiver of service or advertised in the local paper. Any other way & you can just deny you received them. [/b]<BR>They were settlement agreement forms. I DID contact a lawyer, and she assured me they were NOT the real deal. I think my H thought I would sign and it would be over from then. I DID talk to him once, and he was "surprised" that I even cared he left! That told me a lot about how much i had been neglecting him. He said he "had a lot of things to think about now..." whatever that means, but that was just a few days after he left, so I guess he's not through thinking yet! From what attorney told me, they cannot put my name in paper if they know where I am, must serve me with Process Server, so I just sit here day after day waiting for that to happen, although I'm praying it won't come to that. With every day he's gone, I pray the "fog" is lifting a little bit more, and he'll at least CALL me so we can talk.<P>Again, thanks for all the answers. Not much new, but confirmation of what I was thinking. Nothing much to do on my end, just wait it out......a long lonely journey.<P>Lupo<P>It takes time. Does it always work out? No. But if you follow the principles on this website, you will be much better off.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>