destroyedinside has a rather urgent problem. She is new and posted in the 'Just Found Out' forum needs some urgent advice from those of us who have some experience. I'm re-posting her question here:<P><BR>--------------------------------<BR>[QUOTE]Originally posted by destroyedinside:<BR>[B]right now i am going thru pain i could never have imagined. i had a miscarriage a few weeks ago and left to England to seek support from my family as i was devastated. Upon my return, i found out my husband had been having a four month affair and had invited this woman down from Seattle to be with him whilst i was in England. We hadn't even been married for one year. He spent every penny we have in the bank on her. Meantime, we are two months behind in the rent, cable cut off, telephone and I am up to my ears in debt. (all on my credit cards of course, he had none) He told her he was single without any children (we have an 8 month old son) he not only denied me, he called me for everything to her. I am a citizen here and he told her he is staying with me until he gets his green card. AFter i had a mountain of hard evidence of the affair, he confessed and he then called her in front of me to tell her the affair was over and wanted nothing else to do with her. She really is a sweet person who had no idea he was married. He told her once he had his green card from me, they would build a life together in Seattle with her daughter. Meantime, he doesn't even look or touch our own son. She too is devasted as he charmed her too with exactly the same words he used on me - verbatim.<P>To add insult to injury (like it couldn't get any worse) he was on the gay chat lines downloading men's pictures. Not only am i devasted by what this man has done to me, i am in acute fear that i may have contracted a disease from this man. Obviously, AIDS being my worst fear.<P>When I first met him, he was sleeping on a sofa without a penny to his name. He was also a raging alcoholic. Today, he is in a job that pays him 100k a year. This is the thanks i get for supporting him emotionally and financially when he was down and out.<P>I too cannot go on and am on anti-depressants, sedatives, etc. The pain in unbearable every waking moment and i do not see any light at the end of the tunnel. I have no money and nowhere to go with my son and have to stay under the same roof as the man who has completely destroyed my life. To add insult to injury, he is constantly trying to have sex with me every night. I have literally thrown up in front of him at the thought of this.<P>Can anyone advise me of any resource centers for woman in my plight. I know this man can become violent when he drinks.<P>My hair is falling out in clumps and I cannot eat without throwing up and cannot sleep without the aid of pills.<P>Where does one go from here????<P>-------------------------------------------------------------------------------- <BR>Here's the link to her post........<P><A HREF="http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000914.html" TARGET=_blank>http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/Forum29/HTML/000914.html</A> <BR>zorweb<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare<P>[This message has been edited by zorweb (edited June 28, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by zorweb (edited June 28, 2001).]
