I read what you wrote about Hummingbird! <P>Will you pass a message along to her for me? Tell her it's new_beginning though, or she won't know who I am! <P>Tell her congratulations and how very happy and proud I am to have known her... <P>I emailed with her a bit, saw a picture of she and her H and saw so much potential too... <P>I am so glad she had you!!<P>This made my day!!!<P>Sheryl

Could you please fill me in or give me a link? I used to keep in contact with Hummingbird...but, am afriad I have not done as well lately. Is she ok?

Hi Susan, Here it is:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Cascade, I know a young lady who used to post here. I wish she would come by every now and then because she could give you her story firsthand, but she is very busy preparing for the baby she's expecting WITH HER HUSBAND after ending, and recovering from, her affair.<P>This young lady's husband has a great many hobbies that were eating up a lot of his time. He is a good, decent, solid man, but not "exciting." At the time, he was ambivalent<BR>about children, something she wanted very badly. She had an affair with a guy at work, a smooth talker who said all the right "romantic" things. When she came here, the guy had just broken it off "because he couldn't leave his son", or so he said; and yet he still kept her on the string, mooning about how wonderful it would be if they could have a baby<BR>together, yada yada.<P>To make a long story short, she went through an agonizing withdrawal. Every time he contacted her, she'd e-mail me asking me to set her straight. Which I did, because I<BR>am nothing if not a straight talker. Time went by, and she began to work on putting the energies she put into the affair into her husband...and lo and behold, her H started to change. He was more understanding, more courteous. She developed some interests of her own. Then he decided he was ready for a child after all. They had some problems<BR>getting there, but just as she was ready to undergo treatments, she became pregnant. <P>She is just over 3 months along now, and believe me when I tell you, she is completely changed. Gone is the little girl mooning over romance novels and a smooth line. Now she's<BR>a grown woman, ready for a mature marriage and a family. I am so happy for her, and so proud of her, I could just bust my buttons.<P>Cascade, this could be you.<P>If you want to read some of this young lady's story, look in the archives of this forum and the "read only posts" for posts by "Hummingbird."<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P> <BR>

Oh thanks! That's great. I knew about the pregnancy....but when you said "you were glad that she was there for her", it scared me. I was scared something had gone wrong!<P>Yes, she has made remarkable strides in rebuilding her marriage and will be a wonderful mother!

Nyneve and Susan:<P>Darn, is it ever nice to start the day off with a good, positive story!<P>Godspeed and God bless,<BR>STL

STL,<P>I KNOW!!!!!<P>I had no idea, but I've often wondered how she was doing...<P>Sorry Susan, that things are not going as well as you'd hoped... care to talk about it?

I don't know where you got that "things are not going well". I think maybe there are 2 Susans and maybe we are confused. BUT, my life is going great. I too am a success story that I never dreamed possible. I think even my counselor at the time wondered. She said that I came to her in the depth of despair, but we were to be commended for the hard work we had done. She finally graduated me/us after 2 years of marriage rebuilding.<P>There have been so many changes in my life, it is hard to even begin to tell them all. But, I will say, I have never been happier in all aspects of my life.<P><BR>OH...I just reread my previous message...and I only meant that I was not doing well keeping in contact with Hummingbird as I once did. ooops... <P>Good example of how easy it is to mistake the written word.<BR><p>[This message has been edited by Susan (edited June 28, 2001).]

Good Morning Nyneve-<P>I red the subject title D&C and thought you were going in for surgery Golly gee whiz-way to scare a gal!<P>This was a great way to start the day!<P>I am not reading any more-cause I want to keep my day right on track-where it ought to be!<P>Hugs to all of you out there-hope your day goes fantastic!<P>------------------<BR>*heartache*<P>"Life's A Dance<BR>You Learn As You Go.<BR>Sometimes You Lead<BR>Sometimes You Follow!<BR>Don't worry 'Bout What You Don't Know<BR>LIfe's A Dance <BR>You Learn As You Go."

Susan,<P>Oh dear, I know who you are FOR SURE... I would never mistake you... <P>It was the sentence:<P> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>I have not done as well lately<HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>Obviously taken all wrong --- BIG OOPS -- and sorry!!