This whole Love Busting thing is really getting to me.<BR>It would be so much easier if my H wouldn't almost goad me into doing it.<BR>I have a bad habit of saying exactly what is on my mind....lately it just seems to backfire on me.<BR>Yesterday when H got home from work I was in a mood. To the point where I was ready to just tell him that the girls and I were going to move in with my sister.<BR>We already had plans to have supper with his parents so I kept my mouth shut.....but he knew something was up. He kept asking me what my problem was.<BR>At his parents he was working on his truck and asked me to help him...by this time I had settled down and opened up a little. While working on it we talked about this and that and then all of the sudden he just started joking about the OW's H telling him he had a beating coming. I started to walk away telling him that I hadn't thought of her or the situation for a while and he just had to bring it up. (he's constantly telling me I'm the one bringing it up)<BR>He called me back and apologized and asked me to let him finish because he was just joking....I agreed.<BR>He then went on to tell me about his day and then decided to throw in another thing...this time about the OW.<BR>It doesn't really bother me....because it had nothing to do with him....it was something the guys on 2nd shift did and he thought it was funny.<BR>BUT........why is he comfortable talking to me about that when he knows it's just a reminder for me. It seems like it's ok for him to discus her....but when I say something I'm bringing it all back up again.<BR>Anyway.....later that night is when I LB'd. I'm getting to the point where I just can't handle this stuff anymore.<BR>I told him that I was getting hard inside...and I told him that I had thought about moving in with my sister for a while but didn't because it would be so hard on her right now since she is going through a divorce herself. I didn't want to add to her already hectic life.<BR>I told him that from now on....I make some of the rules and one of them was that the lying stops....and if it didn't he could get out. If there is nothing to hide then there is nothing to lie about.<BR>I told him that I didn't know what was going on inside of him but whatever it was he better find a way to fix it because he was destroying what I felt for him. I told him that I was beginning to wonder if he really wanted to get those feelings back and wondering if he would ever get them back....he agreed with me on that one. He's starting to wonder himself if he can get them back.<BR>I asked him to write a letter of no contact and of course he thought it was a stupid idea....he said it would just get things started again since he hasn't had contact with her since he came home other than work.<BR>All in all.....I probably might as well have just turned and talked to the wall.....because after I was done....he actuall told me he thought I had no guts and that I was weak when he isn't around. That really burns my [censored]. (sorry)<P>I'm fed up with the way I'm treated. I've done everything humanly possible to be with the man I love and in return I get no respect, affection, or attention.<BR>I feel Plan B coming on soon.

MP:<P>A bit of LBing (how severe an LB depends on tone of voice, etc.), but also look at it as establishing your boundaries and conditions. Sort of a pre-Plan B discussion.<P>Not the best approach; but since it is done, salvage from it what you can and move on to the next step, whatever it may be.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL