Ok, you guys have heard my issue with porn, but this time I think it's gone too far. My daughter came home from her paper route and H was on my laptop(he forgot his at work) she didn't think anything of it. He told her to go clean her room. I came home about 15 min later. He was in the bathroom,(no--nothing but potty stuff) I saw our regular pc on and he immediately said he was going to play his game-I said ok, whatever. Have fun. Pizza won't be ready for 45 min. SO he played his game, got blown up and turned off pc. Came into kitchen -I was on laptop playing Sims, thinking he was going to be a while. He said what are you doing- I said-I thought you were going to be a while so I thought I'd play until the pizza was ready. Ok-no biggie. Then after the pizza and we ate, my D said is it ok to play the sims? I said yeah-go ahead, and then she said ok because I wasn't sure I thought this was Dad's laptop because he was on it when I got home from my paper route. I said what were you doing on my laptop (laughing like)?? he said she's nuts I wasn't on it. He was kinda laughing so she kept going thinking he was kidding. She said you were on the internet. I had to walk under the white cord to get by you. He kept saying no I think you were mistaken-and she said no the phone was off the wall. Well, he totally blew up at her telling her to shut up, she doesn't know what she was talking about. He was kinda hugging me and I said-ahh so this explains the little bathroom break(he and I had a little deal in the bathroom-gotta take them when I can,I suppose, with 4 kids)and he said this is BS I never did anything, I didn't do anything. GO ahead and check(he knew I wouldn't) he ordered our daughter up to her room(she really thought the whole time he was playing around and not serious). Then he went outside slammed the door got some chairs out of the garage, throwing bikes around and stuff, because we were going to sit outside so I could help him on some of his work that he brought home. I was like-geez no big deal, forget about it. But he was pretty mad. So now here's the message that he gives off. His one and only rule is no lying. So now she gets in trouble for telling the truth and sees him lie to me about it. What kind of message is that?? Then I get on the regular pc today and find everything is wiped out, he erased some stuff. Then I check my laptop and find that he did log on. WHY LIE!!!! Then when ever I talk about his little lie( which has happened at 3x that I can think of-deer caught in headlights-kinda deal) he says I'm not talking about it. But it's ok to talk about anything I do-all stinkin night long. What is it about men and not willing to fess up to a wrong doing. Like I said- I hate porn when watched in private-but I'm getting better-but to try and cover it up and lie about it, that's what I can't stand. And I can't even discuss this with him, he gets so rude about it, he says I've moved on, talk about something else. So I guess what in the heck do I do letting him know if he wants to watch porn in private that's fine, just don't lie about it.
