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MIL drops kids off with H today. She tries to give him a backpack full of books I had put together for him. (He called and left a message the other day saying he needed to come by and get some books), so I found every book I could of his and put it in a backpack for him (good plan B, huh?).<P>Anyway, he says "I wanted to go and pick out the books I wanted." and he leaves the backpack and refuses to take it...<P>She went back and left it in his car per my request (with the stroller she had forgotten).<P>Can you say "fog"???
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Let me add...<P>"I don't want to be married anymore." (H)<BR>"Okay, then pack your bags and move out." (me)<BR>"Oh, because you decide I can leave, I should go?" (H)<P>Seriously HbH,<BR>They feel lacking in control and want to take control...just like they feel 'we' have been doing to them all the time of our marriage.<P>It is a heartbreaking conundrum.<P><BR>Cali
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Oh well. That didn't work. When MIL went to put the backpack in the car he just outright refused. Said again that HE wanted to go pick out the ones he wanted. She said "but they are all in the backpack just take it." He said, "oh, I don't have room in my car (caravan)."<P>???<P>think it's an excuse to try and talk/see me tonight??
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HBH - excellent job!!<P>You and Rick will be my inspiration - let's stick together.<P>WAT
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HbH,<P>Ok the squirm moose brain worms are trying to escape. He wants to talk to you but won't admit it? Be brave, my friend. Be strong. <P>IMHO, I would talk to him, when he can ask you nicely not use a bunch of excuses. Even if you are in plan B. It doesn't mean to never talk to him, just stay away as long as he is playing his game. When he is willing to be truthful, upfront and civil, then you can 'consider' talking to him.<P>Take Care,<BR>L.<BR>
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