Poor Diva!<P>I was still up, though talking to the whole community here is probably more comforting than one very vindictive woman. <P>I think it was sneaky to switch places to stay so late in the game.<P>I can't believe he told the boys that what he was doing was in such heroic light as a 'quest'. <P>You have a spare cell phone? What are the terms on it...contract, etc? Lemme know. <P>Remember that AFTER I had divorced C, and could not get him to move out until five months later, and I then changed the locks, he still had most of his stuff in my house, which I promptly stuck in an unused closet. I don't think it's right to throw it out, etc, but I would rent a storage unit to put it all in, in a couple months.<P>Tell the boys the truth. Poor Angry "A". Being the middle child isn't hard enough, is it?

Diva:<P>Thoughts and prayers with you and the kids.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

Diva,<P>I replied on your other post and again express deep sorry. Your H said he is going on a quest? Hm.... sounds like an 'adventure in fantasy land'. <P>For me, I allowed a couple of weeks for h to remove his things. Then I packed up whatever was left and put it in the garage. This gave him less reason to come back into the house. He still tried to worm his way in. Must be the moose worms trying to get out. <P>Oh, oh, I don't like crawling critters in my house so the moose worms had to stay out and so did their host. <P>This hard. Do you feel like he is trying leave stuff to have a reason to return? That is frustrating yet at the same time hopeful. Crazy isn't it? That is why these times will be hard for you. <P>Stand firm my friend. Plant those feet in your home. It is yours now, make sure all visitors treat it with respect. <P>NOTE: For me, I changed the locks the day after he moved out. Just for fun, you can check back on my posts in Jan, you will see there was a 'window' incident when H crawled out our son's bedroom window in order to avoid his 'best friend' who was in the front of the house, changing my locks. <P>This is true, you heard it here at MB.com<P>L.<BR>

Hey sis, I just talked to boys. I told them daddy would not be sleeping here for a while...I wasn't sure for how long.<P>A was worried that G was 'not going to be his father anymore.' He also wants to go with him.<P>lil G is worried that big G won't take him to ball games, or be here for him to practice with.<P>E is happily clueless at this point.<P>I reassured them as best as I could. Told them if they were scared or worried about anything they should talk to us about it...if I couldn't answer I would refer them to their dad.<P>We're doing our best. I need to get off this computer and clean some house...I keep procrastinating .<P>Love ya,<P>Big sis<P>

Orchid:<P>Oh, I can believe it. My exW jimmied open a ground-level window in our split-level home. My neighbor (a cop), caught her with her derrier sticking up into the breeze.<P>Kodak moment ... and me not there with a camera ... sigh.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

Awwwwwe Diva .... I'm so so sorry.<P>I remember the day my H left like it was yesterday. I thought I was going to die. He wanted to hug me good bye, I just couldn't do it, I was sobbing so hard.<P>That was 1 year, 2 mos ago. I still have all his stuff in his office.<P>Lots of prayers for you today, Diva. Just know that you will be okay.<P>Lv,<BR>Jo<BR>