In checking out a few things here, here's advice from me:<BR> People say you'll know when to "plan b." I would have to say that plan b includes changing the locks, etc. Plan a would include things like discussing with Harry (see your post below for the harry reference) the fact that it would be confusing to everyone if he simply roamed free in and out. . . He's not your college aged son, he's a husband who has left his home! <BR> Therefore, general courtesies should include calling when he's going to drop by--that doesn't mean he's banned from ever stopping by unexpectedly, just that it would be nice for you to know when you might expect him, so you can plan to be there or not, whichever is appropriate for that visit.<BR> BTW, sorry MIL mentioned to him the "advice." Didn't intend for anything to be spread that way, will have to buy myself some duct-tape. <BR> Anyway, I can see why you'd plan a as long as you can. Plan b could/would be awfully painful, if you weren't ready for it.<BR> Stay strong. . . And as you're riding the waves, don't forget that there are PEOPLE who are willing to jump in and help you tread water, should it come to that.<P>------------------<BR>I choose to hold hands, rather than point fingers.

Diva:<P>To reiterate 3H ... as long as you are riding the waves, we will help you hang 10 and surf!<P>Plan A as long as you healthily can; beyond that, start to think of YOUR needs, YOUR goals ... that is the transition to Plan B.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL

Thanks HHH (sis)...<P>MIL apologized profusely for that slip...she knows how much she needs to stay out of it...she is 'fighting' to give this over to God as well.<P>Love to you.<P>Thanks STL your words of humor and wisdom are wonderful.<P>Diva