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I was just wondering how often anyone who is practicing Plan A still informs the WS that he or she loves them. Do you ever send some small token, such as an e-card, to remind them? Do you see any harm in doing so?<P>Even though I have been in Plan A for about seven months now, I still remind my wife in some way about every two weeks or so just how I feel and how much I miss her.<P>I still want to keep her thinkin'... ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/wink.gif)
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I've only been Plan A'ing for about a month, but I've been telling her when there is an opportunity, such as at the end of "talk" or when there is a goodbye for more than a day or so... I've been avoiding any extraneous "I Love You"s though and have actually switched to "I really care about you" a few times too...<P>But my situation is also crazy... So there ya go!<P>f_n
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I say "I love you" <BR>once a day via email,<BR>at the end of each phone call about once a week,<BR>when going to sleep once a day,<BR>when leaving for work about every other day,<BR>after big talks about once or twice a week, and<BR>when she's done something special for me.<P>Been plan A'ing about a month.<P>SaltWater<BR><p>[This message has been edited by SaltWater (edited July 03, 2001).]
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Plan A 10 months...<BR>I tell my whole family I love them whenever I feel like it, including fiance.<BR>I don't do it to hear it back, nor to manipulate anyone. That's my simple rule of thumb ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif)
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Believe me, it couldn't be any crazier than mine. My wife's OP is another woman. I don't know if that makes my situation harder or easier because even though my W has admitted the affair and is still seeing this OW, she continues to insist she is not a homosexual.<P>I want to believe her. Steve Harley says it is entirely possible for this to happen (the affair is mainly an emotional one). So every once in a while, I through in a little reminder of how I feel...
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ALways,<P>Paln A'ing for about 2 months, 6 weeks from D-day.<P>I tell her when the opportunity arises. on Sunday that was twice.<P>I send her a card every 7-10 days per Steve H. I always sign it, Love JK.<P>IMHO, Telling the WS you love them is really irrelevant, its your actions that count, I can't express that enough!!!<P>NO LB'ing, validate feelings, be thougfull and considerate.<P>Sounds easy right, HA! wait until they piss you off and minipulate the truth and all of the other fun games they play. <P><BR>JK<P>
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I tell her everyday - both in words and gestures. I have for the 12 years I've known her...<P>...and for the 10 months since D-Day.<P>-HD
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I say it every day when ever I get the chance which I do most days and have since we met .... I am trying hard to be a better person<BR>Jen
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Its been 12 weeks since D-day and about 4 weeks of Plan A-ing with Steve H. She isn't up when I leave in the morning so I tell her I love her during the day if I can sneak in a call home (and if her line isn't busy) and always before I go to sleep. I send her a note once or twice a week telling her how I feel about her or to tell her I'm thinking of her. I try to hold her hand if we happen to be walking somewhere together and the kids don't get between us. I've bought flowers 4 times since D-day, bubble bath with an extra large bath towel and a pillow for the bathtub, and of course Hershey's Hugs and Kisses. Yes, a lot more attention than before D-day. Money doesn't mean the same to me anymore so I don't worry like I once did about buying her little things.<P>Unfortunately, no response back from her at anything.. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/frown.gif) <P>SG
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