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As a strange side benefit of doing a full-on Plan A, my love for my wife seems to be growing, and I feel like less of a doormat that in the past. Has anyone else had this experience?<P>SaltWater<P>
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sw:<P>It is not uncommon. By implementing Plan A, you are also reinforcing all the reasons you love your spouse.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL
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Salt,<P>I had that experience in the beginning. But as the weeks wore into months and I saw no results whatsoever, that effect began to fade.<P>Just a caution for the future.<P>Ish
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Salty - you may be experiencing the natural reaction of realizing you may lose her. As Ish implies, if you do Plan A and Plan B correctly - and she doesn't return to you, you will probably end up worrying that you WON'T lose her.<P>WAT
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Yes, I do feel a greater sense of love through Plan A...it is different than the infatuation-style love before any hardships, because I feel in control of my life and am choosing to love BF, not waiting every day to be the recipient of his love. He has told me many times how good I make him feel, how much he loves the "things I say to him'. I think he feels very appreciated, which he is.<BR>In fact, Plan A has benefited other family relationships and friendships. <BR>And, while Plan A can be grinding, and some days I glare at BF behind his back and worse...on the whole my actions have healed alot of the humiliation I felt as a BS.
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If she is NOT treating you disrespectfully and being a giver (ie. meeting your needs), then I believe it is possible. However, I have found that when the affair is discovered, people realize what they have/had & the love does seem to be stronger than it has been in a while.<P>If she is taking & not giving at all, then it is only a matter of time till this feeling goes away.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers & God Bless!<BR>Chris<BR>For relationship info check out <A HREF="http://www.pcisys.net/~chriscal1/resources.html" TARGET=_blank>Marriage & Relationship Resources</A>
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I love my H more on Plan A - it does seem to be a stronger feeling. I think it's because I am learning how to be a better W and to properly appreciate him and see his good points. <P>Of course, I have ups and downs too though. Sometimes I get so angry because he doesn't respond to my efforts or seem to care that he is hurting me, which causes my love to diminish. I guess its just that the ups and downs are higher and lower - more extreme - I love him more, but then dislike him more - than before this all happened.....<P>------------------<BR>Faith1
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Yep, know what happened to me? My love grew from a "selfish" love, I loved him b/c of how he made me feel, to a "real" love, I love him now for who I know he is. Strange, but wonderful feeling!
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