I been thinking about my W's recent withdraw, 72 hours. It seems she is a far away from me as ever. In the last 2 weeks she called me 15-20 times with some conversations lasting 1-2 hours. No she dos'nt want to do any family time or even want to talk to me. Her converstaion sare very short and curt.<P>It this just the WS process, Steps to you and then withdraws? Part of the roller coaster? Ughhhhh! I'm trying to figure what I said or did. Is it because I told her I keep a journal??<P>Ugghhhhhhhhhh! <P>Help me sleep tonight.<P><BR>JK

JK, withdrawal sucks. My H went through it for 3 weeks and was finally getting out of it when OW showed back up and screwed everything up.<P>You can't do anything right during this time. Did you read Surviving an Affair? As Dr. Harley says. You can't meet your wife's EN's right now, it's not possible until withdrawal has ended. So, you are right, it is going to seem like you are going nowhere.<P>The good news is that withdrawal usually only lasts a couple of weeks, then it slowly starts getting better and by 6 months is usually gone completely. <P>Keep up trying to meet your wife's EN's (at some point it will start working and you don't know when!), and try not to LB. It will get better.

JK,<P>You need to get your rest. Predicting WS is not an exact science other than the illogical move is often their most logical step. <P>If she does show she is interested in her family it may be for many reasons. If you stry to decipher them it will only hurt you further. Hard as it is, let it go. Just keep an eye out for her. This pattern will not continue long without other consequences. <P>This is a roller coaster ride. Not a fun one and not a short one. Buckle up rough course ahead. The better you know the course the more prepared you can be. <P>L.<P><BR>

HBH,<P>Yes I have read SAA, and I understand withdraw, she has been ther since she asked me to leave in Feburary. Coming up on six months. We have been seperated 3 months, and it 6 weeks from d-day. The A is over.<P>My question is regarding her waffeling during withdraw. Sunday night she wanted to sleep over and caught herself and went home. Now she barely wants to talk to me. My question is this normal "alian" behavior?<P><BR>Orchid,<P>She dosn't want "family time" as shge feels as thought it gives daughter false hope. I think the real answer is she is feeling things for me and is runnning the other way.<P>Wadddaya think?<P><BR>JK<P><BR>it's 12:35, I'll try and get some sleep, I re-read amy post from Monday and STL suggested she is in and out of the FOG.<P>So, I' log on in the AM.. Night ALL.<P>[This message has been edited by JK (edited July 04, 2001).]<p>[This message has been edited by JK (edited July 04, 2001).]