Good morning everyone,<P>Today I'm feeling like my situation is hopeless. The rollercoaster is on the downslope heading for the valley at full speed. <P>Early on I didn't get it when the support here said what a roller coaster ride it would be. Woooooooooohoooooooo!<P>So here's what I'm doing, its a new day, I'm late for work. I pulled out my Plan A notes and reveiw things I havn't done that need doing and I'm refocusing on me!!!!!!!!<P>Afterall its a new day. Lets make some good things happen.<P>JK<P><BR>

JK<P>Good morning. Ah yes the roller coaster ride. How real it is complete with the nausia and dizziness. <P>I is time for you to focus on yourself. That is really what Plan A and Plan B are about. Taking care of you. You need to, as this is a trying time for you.<P>Hope good things do happen for you today. <P>Z<BR><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Brand new day - anything can happen. Keep that Plan A hoppin, JK!<P>zen

JK,<P>You've got it right. Since we have no control over what our WS are going to do with their lives, all we can do is our absolute best with what we can control. And some days you feel OK, some are terrible. In any day, 10 minutes can be horrible and the next 10 can be better. Hard to explain to someone...they have to live it.<P>Over the long term, doing it right and in an honorable way does help you tremendously. I can attest to that.<P>When people used to say that one way or the other, you'll be better off and a stronger person from Plan A and following the principles, whether you end up together or not, subconsciously you can think, "but I only want to be together...I don't want to think about the other option". But it is all true. I'm not out of the woods yet, but I do know that I'll be OK one way or the other. If my WS decides in the end to break up our family, it isn't because I didn't try to keep it together.<P>Glad you are thinking of making good things happen. That thought process will go away, then come back, but when it goes away, get on here and vent, and you can know that it will come back.

The roller coster sure is so real and seems to only move faster as the time goes by. I have been in Plan B for about six weeks and there are times when it seems ok and there are times when things seem out of control. The ups and downs do not go away just because friends and family tell you to take care of yourself and go on with your life.<P>There will most likely be times when you want to just throw in the towel (where I am right now) and there will be times when you want the WS back so badly you feel like you can't breathe (where I will be 10 minutes from now). <P>The key is to remember that you have a plan. Stick to your plan. Start not only each day new, start each minute new. Every bit of time is precious and you will never get that time back, so use it to your benefit. <P>You want your marriage to work, then spend every minute working to that outcome. Your post has ginen me a new since of desire. Last night I was ready to file for D myself instead of waiting for my WH to do so like he said four weeks ago. After reading this morning I am ready for more plan B. In the end I will be so much stronger and if he does not want me back, well he is the one losing, not me. I will still have the new improved me and what will he have? The OW who has already cheated on one husband (twice). Yes, all of us here will definately be the winners in the long run, with or without the WS.

SF,<P>Well said, I'm glad my quote is an insperation to others. I have had a really tough day today, emotionally, and I have the kiddos tonight. So I have to get it together, and Fast, I'll log on tonight when they are fast asleep.<P>JK<BR> <BLOCKQUOTE><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><HR>Originally posted by SinkingFast:<BR><B>The roller coster sure is so real and seems to only move faster as the time goes by. I have been in Plan B for about six weeks and there are times when it seems ok and there are times when things seem out of control. The ups and downs do not go away just because friends and family tell you to take care of yourself and go on with your life.<P>There will most likely be times when you want to just throw in the towel (where I am right now) and there will be times when you want the WS back so badly you feel like you can't breathe (where I will be 10 minutes from now). <P>The key is to remember that you have a plan. Stick to your plan. Start not only each day new, start each minute new. Every bit of time is precious and you will never get that time back, so use it to your benefit. <P>You want your marriage to work, then spend every minute working to that outcome. Your post has ginen me a new since of desire. Last night I was ready to file for D myself instead of waiting for my WH to do so like he said four weeks ago. After reading this morning I am ready for more plan B. In the end I will be so much stronger and if he does not want me back, well he is the one losing, not me. I will still have the new improved me and what will he have? The OW who has already cheated on one husband (twice). Yes, all of us here will definately be the winners in the long run, with or without the WS.</B><HR></BLOCKQUOTE><P>

I hope that things go well tonight with the kids. I don't have kids, only two dogs. They love me unconditionally (well I do have to feed them to keep them happy). <P>I am sure that you have felt, or will someday soon feel, the way I felt last night. I saw my WH at a distance with OW and it really hit me hard. The fact that he is openly displaying that he has picked her over me breaks my heart, but to see them about did me in emotionally. <P>I was ready to file and take control of my destiny after the initial shock, but as I was going to sleep last night I prayed about it and asked God to give me the knowledge of what to do or provide me with some sign. I am not sure if your post was a sign, but this morning when I finally got out of bed and logged on to the computer it was the first post I saw. <P>Immediately after reading the post I thought, I do not quit. I have never given up on anything in my life that I wanted. Why would I start now. So here I am fully recharged and ready to fight some more. Since I am in Plan B I will work, work, work on myself and in the meantime hope that he wakes up and realizes what a huge mistake he is making. <P>But, I must keep in mind that if he does not wake up, then someone else will benefit from this new, always improving person that I am becoming and someday he will be sorry that he lost me.<P>Hang in there and Plan A with all of your might. I will keep you in my prayers and hope that your WS returns before you have to move to Plan B. But remember, if not, you can Plan B along with us that are there now and we will be here for you.