Hello again all...for all that's following my situation here..<BR>Well...this has been an interesting week to say the least...I was pretty down after the first time he and I slept together again...but then it happened again a couple days later!...not so depressed this time...although he did say a few off things...but a few hopeful things as well...that we were still making love and not just sex!...that was hopeful to me....to him there's a difference between the two...<BR>Anyway he was still quoting the I'm confused line...that was 2 nights ago...but that he's getting better since he's still staying at his parents house...although spending a majority of his time with us or me here or driving around...like he's slowly trying to get back into his life??...I know now that he feels guilt over what he's done...he admitted that couple days ago...<BR>Anyway yesterday we drove around all day and talked about things "we" were going to do??...like about a house in the country in a couple years?...after selling the one we're being financed for now....Here's the part I need help understanding....he says as soon as we're straightened out we'll do this and that....I've only been working 3 weeks now...but it looks like besides conversation, it was financial that had become a top priority too...and he's allowing the sexual one to be with me now again too...he allows me to be affectionate to him...but not too much...I can still see his guilt over what he's done<BR>But he did admit that I had turned him on...heheh....he didn't want to admit it but did...it looks like he may be realizing that he is still in love with me?...he feels so guilty now over what he did??...am I being too hopefull?...we talked for hours in the car...sat close together taking care of the hyper one at the fireworks...although the older child is still acting out over all of it...sigh....I could tell he was watching me off and on before we went to sleep last night...yes he did stay here last night...didn't do anything...bad timing right now...but could see that he probably wanted to and is frustrated that he has to wait...L....but that is his OLD personality!...every day my original husband shows up more and more...it's interesting to see how he'll act from day to day...<BR>He will only regress if something that reminds of what happened occurrs....so been avoiding it for now....just moving ahead....not so depressed now but wary...although all the "we"s yesterday have me a bit too high??...<BR>Trying to stay on a level plateau...but geez....all the we'll do this and that stuff??....Opinions???....

Ms. Mac - Opinions? Yea - what's with all the ......? <P>Seriously - things sound good. JUST BE PATIENT!!!<P>Maybe he's coming around. Just don't give him ANY reasons to back off. This means NO LOVEBUSTING!! Let him come at his own pace and don't be surprised if there are setbacks - as a matter of fact you SHOULD be surprised if there aren't!<P>Don't slack off looking for things you can improve in yourself. Be pleasant, validate his feelings and look him in the eye and flash that pretty smile when he's talking to you.<P>WAT

Hi MacGyver,<P>This sounds like a good time to plan A. Now don't do it at the expense of yourself. Your H sounds like he is responding to positive actions on your part. Don't play the martyr just the one that he is attracted to. Your home is an inviting place. Not too sweet or mushy, fogheads see right through that and sometimes use it against us. <P>Be balanced. Let him see how good you are. Make him 'want' you. Hm..... <P>Be cautious. No jumping up and down yet. Enjoy what you can. Protect your heart. <P>Take Care,<BR>L.<P>

MacG:<P>Predicting foggy weather is chancy at best. The signs that the fog is lifting are encouraging, but be aware that it can resettle just as quickly. Enjoy the sun while it is shining, but keep a jacket handy.<P>Glad that there is some sign of improvement: it makes it easier to stay the course and keep on Plan A-ing.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL