Hi Paint,<P>I echo what everyone else here has said to you. Most importantly composing a Plan B letter. If you wish, post the letter here and we'll help you with it. <P>As everyone else has said, aft a couple weeks in Plan B you'll feel some relief, things won't hurt as much. <P>Just know we're here to help you along the Plan B path and beyond.<P>Love,<BR>Jo

Hi there,<P>I'm feeling a bit better this morning - even though I'm puffy-eyed and headachey, at least I got a good nights sleep.<P>Thankyou for all your words of advice and encouragement - I couldn't believe how many replies I had got when I checked this morning!! You guys are so amazing <P>I'm going to get Dobson's book today and also write my Plan B letter. I'll leave the 3-month time span out, as suggested - though this will be hard, because if I don't make plans to move back to England at the end of September then I might find myself 'stuck' here until after Christmas - and it would be very hard to stick to Plan B over that time of year if we are still living here.<P>I think you are right about me feeling better in Plan B - although the first thing I did this morning was to check for e-mails from him! (there weren't any). One of the bad parts of Plan A was that I often spent hours in front of the computer swopping e-mails with him, when he was down because I was trying to 'be there for him'. At least with Plan B I can get out the house, get some fresh air and have some fun with the kids.<P>btw - when I'm sad, my youngest daughter shows me her 'sunshine' - this is when she spreads her arms out as wide as she can and grins from ear-to-ear like the sun. This morning she lost her second front upper tooth and now has a temporary lisp....so this morning she showed me her 'thun-thine' which REALLY made me smile <P>I'll check in most days and try to support you all as much as you've supported me. You are all in my thoughts and prayers,<P>hugs Paint.

Paintbox,<P>Please don't forget that Plan B is for you. If September comes and you want to go back to England, nothing about Plan B prevents that. If you need to keep a time limit for your own peace of mind, do so. You just don't have to tell him about it. After you move you can send a letter updating your contact instructions. (Assuming there are no legal issues.) <P>Take care.<P> -- Jeffers

Keep enjoying the "sunshine"...isn't it amazing how our children can make us feel so good with their little acts of love and kindness.<P>You'll feel better after a bit of Plan B time, like Resilient said. I know that I do feel better after a week of Plan B. Rough edges at the start, but I don't have to worry about stupid calls from my wife now, full of lies. You can focus on your kids and yourself.<P>We are here for you.