Ok for this to be child neglect ther has to be repeated patterns of behavior.<P>Yesterday, W, left 1 year old in day care with out a bottle and with out his meds for me to give him in the evening. <P>This is from the moring after OM stayed over.<P>I want to express my concerns but do not want her to see it as controling and I do not want to LB.<P>JK<P>

JK:<P>An approach like, "I am concerned about <child>'s needs not being met. Can you help me with this?"<P>By focusing on the "I" and appealing for their assistance, you minimize the chance of LBing. And you fulfill the need to protect the child.<P>Prayers and thoughts with you,<BR>Godspeed,<BR>STL

I would only express my concerns if this becomes a repetitive behaviour on her part.<P>Even those of us who are not in lala land, sometimes forget the most obvious things when it comes to the kids. A great example of one of my greatest blunders was this: my 2 yr old went away for Easter weekend with his grandparents. I got everything packed, especially making sure he had his juice cup and some goldfish crackers for the car trip. His suitcase was packed with far too many outfits (just in case ), and off they went. A few hours after they were gone, I was sitting in the living room, and happened to glance over by his kiddy table. Lo and behold, sitting on the floor next to it were his diapers. I sent my child away without a single diaper or wipe!!! DUH!!!<P>I have no excuses. I just plain forgot. And that was something pretty important, wouldn't you say? <P>My point in sharing this is that there is a good chance that your W just plain forgot, like I did. I understand being a BS myself, that we so easily take every little thing (and big things too of course), and over analyse it to death. It only causes us more stress and strain. You know that. Now, if only we could come up with a way to let it go more easily.. then we'd be all set! I think the prescription for that is simply time.<P>Karen<BR>