After my H left last night our middle daughter who is 4 wanted her daddy to come back....didn't understand why he wasn't here.....so I tried to call him. Couldn't get ahold of him.<BR>When he finally did call I politely asked him where he had been. He said he ran back up to work....with some excuse...but I know the real reason. The OW was working.<BR>Our middle daughter asked him when he was coming home....he couldn't say anything.....when she said I want you to come home daddy all he said was....sorry.<BR>By then our youngest daughter who is 3 wanted to talk to him.....asked him the same questions....and all he said again was sorry.<BR>After I got back on the phone with him our youngest started crying and yelling.....I want my daddy back. He heard it all....didn't really seem to bother him.<BR>I LB'd a little by telling him that if his kids were the most important thing to him that he would be here with them and not have to be telling him he was sorry all the time. I said it nicely.<P>Then....he calls me first thing this morning to tell me how much his paycheck was for. Why...I don't know. His check is direct deposited and I always call the bank on that day.....he knows that. Don't know exactly why he called when he knows that I do that. He didn't ask to talk to the girls.....but of course when they wanted to talk as soon as they knew who it was......raising more questions from them as soon as they got done.<P>So.....why is he still denying wanting to be with the OW if he's making it so obvious....by going up there not but 4 hours after he got off of work.....and why did he feel the need to call and tell me how much he made when he knows that I always call the bank on payday??<P>I still tell him that I love him when I go to get off the phone with him and when he goes to leave.....all he says is......ok. Is this ok.....or should I not say it?

I would continue to tell him I loved him if it doesn't hurt you too much not to get a response back. It was hard for me, but I continued to tell him.

I forgot to mention his reaction to our plans for the day.<P>I asked him last night if he was planning on coming by today and he said.....I don't know...probably. I said I needed to know because I wasn't sure what me and the girls were going to do.<BR>He seemed too interested in knowing exactly what there was for us to do and what we may do. I think he thinks that I'm just going to sit at home all the time waiting for him to come and visit. I won't do that this time. <BR>He's going to have to show how sincere he is in making his promise that the girls can call him 24/7....if I can get ahold of him that is....and he will come running.<BR>Especially is he's with the OW. Wonder if he will drop everything with her to come to be here for them?

Miss Priss~<P>Isn't today his B-day? I hope you did get a card for him, for you and the girls. <P>As far as saying you love him, if you want to then do it. But remember as long as it is not an LB to him. I think you can tell by his reaction if it is or not. <P>Judy