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My W has asked me how the BS can possibly want the WS back after being hurt by them so badly. Why don't they just kick them out and move on? <P>"Love just is."<P>We both understand the love bank stuff. But why is it, when it's clear that the love bank balance is close to zero, that the BS still wants their spouse back. Is this a memory of love? <P>I think Bill had it right when he said we just don't understand "is".<P>This was the silver lining that came out of the dark cloud of last week. The reason why we're all here.<P>"Love just is."<P>Thank you Cali. You understand. Now I do too.<P>Has anyone else come away with anything useful from the past couple of weeks?<P> -- Jeffers
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Jeffers:<P>Christian faith shows the model for perfect love. As humans, we fall so, so short of this ideal.<P>The capacity for love is as infinite as we will let it be. To reach out with love past hurt and pain, despair and desolation is to mirror what we have been shown; is a testament to the perfect love we have been shown.<P>Godspeed,<BR>STL
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I agree with you guys, Jeffers, STL and Cali ... you don't love someone because they reciprocate that love, it just "IS". <P>Thank you for this post, makes me feel I'm not such a sucker when it comes to still loving my H regardless of his trangressions that have hurt me so.<P>Jo
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Thanks Jeffers, I was at the beach all day with family and this post warmed my heart...<P>Now, we know that 'Love just is,' but the reason we are all here (MB) is that Love also needs to be nurtured.<P>Keep in mind, those of you having a hard time keeping the faith, that the 'roots' of your love are still there and, if watered and taken care of, your love can grow stronger and more beautiful still. <P>Cali
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Evening all...<P>Just wanted to chime in and say...<BR>Love is patient, Love is kind, and as we have all learned...Love does not mean you won't have to say you are sorry!! But love offers us many more chances than anything else in our lives! Love Just Is...<P>Thanks for reminding me...<P>Trueheart
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Just want to thank you all for the reminder It has been 7 weeks since D-Day. H sz same thing how can you still love me after all I have done to you and I say because I Love You and he has to walk away sigh and say nothing. The other day I was thinking maybe there is something wrong with me am I sick for still loving him? But coming on site this AM and reading this I know that I am not sick for still loving him and maybe I am holding out lost hope for him returning home but I cannot help it because "Love Just Is". Thanks for the reminder.<P>------------------<BR>I Still Love Him
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