I will make this as brief as possible. About one year and nine months ago, I caught my husband in bed with my friend. We are still together...working on it.<P>Recently he has had contact with another female (single) that asked him to go out for a drink. He told me, I want to go out drinking tonight. I had already made plans for him to stay home with our daughter while I went to a girlfriends for a candle party. I said, with who? He said there is a group going from (business name). I said, I thought only females worked there? He said, no there is John. I said, of course not feeling this way at all...go ahead I will take our daughter with me. He said no, I won't go. And then acted sort of mad. I found out later the single female had asked him at the city pool, while he was visiting our son at an outing. She was with her business. It was just her and a friend going. To make it worse, she is able to ride with him during his work. I said, absolutely not she is chasing you. He says, no she is not! We had a big argument. I feel like we did gain something but took three steps back in order to take one forward. After things were going so good. I just look at him and do not trust him? Should I? Is she chasing? HELP!!

Is she chasing? Well she asked him out. It is his place to say "No Thank You".<P>Your husband should not be "friends" with any woman besides you. This relationship is inappropriate.<P>Why don't you bag your candle party, get a sitter and tell him you are coming too. That you would love to meet his friends. My bet is that he will back out of it ASAP.<P>Are you familiar with the Marriage Builder concepts. If not please read the material on this website and the book "Surviving an Affair". They will give you the road map for putting your marriage back on track. There are things your husband needed to do to earn your turst back. Dating other women will not do that.<P>Keep coming here. This site offers a lot of support to people have problems in their marriages. <P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Z<P>Thanks. It is just nice to hear that I am thinking somewhat sane. We had started right after the first affair reading the book and checking out this website. We should have continued doing both. We were almost done with the book too. No excuse. I will get both of us back on track.<P>Thanks again!!