I really don't want to talk to W, regarding last night blow up on the phone. <P>She called teh office and did not leave a message and was nasty to receptonist, "Where is he, is he coming in today"<P><BR>Called my cellphone while I was in a meeting and didn't leave a message. I don't want to talk to her right now as I'm afraid I'llLB.<P>Any advice?<P>JK<BR>

I was going through exactly the same feelings earlier today.<BR>Don't talk to her until you know you can do so calmly.<P>I did some LBing with my WH in his brief visit here today. I've since had the chance to make it right with positive, brief interaction, not focused on us. I feel better now but wait until the anger passes!

How do you know she was nasty? Did receptionist notice tone of voice, etc?<P>The options:<P>Ignore the call - Does she know that you'll be able to tell she called your cell? Was this a way of leaving a "message"? If so, plus with the receptionist thing, she's going to know that you know that she called, and that you've chosen to ignore her call. How will she feel about this? Angry that you've ignored her? Disappointed? Of course there's no way to know, but the bottom line is that this "inaction" will likely carry some sort of weight.<P>Call her back - If you can muster the will (and I know you can), you could score yourself some Plan A points (notice I didn't say score some for her, just for YOU) by returning the call in a civil, confident manner. If you have a conversation in which you act admirably (courteous, strong, intuitive), then tally 'em up for JK... Not to mention the fact that she might notice this as well...<P>Wait til she calls back - Be honest if asked about the previous calls, then act like outlined in item above.<P>Just my thoughts... you can do it... You CAN control your LBs... It really is just letting go and doing it...<P>-zen