Wow, the games people play in life, adultery stinks. I did try to access his account on line but he has a security block out code and swears he doesn't. He is more than just freinds with her isn't he???????????

I think your hunch is right. So he doesn't want to give you the password or he claiming not to know the password? <P>Can you tell him you would like to meet his 'friend'? Are you strong enough to follow through on that if he agrees? <P>There is a lot more to discuss than just this. It is the tip of the iceberg. It starts to get ugly from here. <P>Read up on surviving an affair and his needs/her needs. Also the book Love must be Tough by Dr. James Dobson is good to read. Especially when there is denial or strong resistance. Get to counseling with your personal marriage counselor or with Steve or Jennifer here at MB. <P>Strengthen your support group. Those around you where you are (friends, famiy, relatives, work mates, neighbors, etc.) They don't have to know everything, just know they need to be there to help you keep your respect for yourself and in turn, they need to respect you and your decisions. That was a requirement for all that I took into my confidence. <P>If you can, pray for a clear mind and a calm heart. More is to come. Let's get you prepared. <P>L.<P><BR>