Hello Everyone,<P>Thank you for all your ever growing support. I have sent H a reply to his email telling him how much I love and care for him and that I so want to work on our marriage.I have also asked him to be honest and tell me anything that he thinks I (or we)could do to make our marriage sronger. I don't know if this was the right thing to say.....<BR>I don't even know if he was just trying to justify why he left OR if he wants to discuss it.I am kinda going in and treading real slowly.Don't want to scare him off.Anyway so far have heard nothing in return,sent it three days ago.....<BR>Does no news mean good news???????<P>Had a check at the doctor and physically everything is OK following the miscarriage.Mentally.....well that is annother story. Am taking things day by day and hour by hour. Am doing all the things suggested by my MB friends <BR>and getting my strength back.<P>I really am starting to think that he has had some kind of MLC,bit young for that though.I am not trying to find out too much about why he took off,I am just scared to put pressure on him.<P>I am reading lots of other posts and trying to learn from these.You are all in my thoughts and prayers.<P>Thank you<P>SAD (no longer alone)<P>

sad - it's impossible to say what's good, bad, up, down, black or white. We all try to analyze, but it's futile. Remember, you're not dealing with a rational person, so your normal thought processes won't work.<P>I know it's hard, but please try to distract yourself.<P>WAT

sadandalone,<P>Who knows what's going through your H's mind. You may want to also read up on the MB material and do the work so that you are ready incase he has a change of heart. You can do the work such as fill in the questionnaires. You could open an email dialogue with him about what you are learning. You might even want to send email the questionnaires to him on the outside chance that he will do the work. <P>Other then this, you really do need to get on with your life right now. Work on yourself and get busy. It is a win/win approach. If he does decide to give your marriage another chance, you will be much better prepared for it. If he does not you will be well prepared to start your life over. <P>I now this is hard. You have been through a lot in the last few weeks. Hang in there.<P>Z<BR><P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

WAT,<P>You are so right,you could drive yourself nuts just letting these thoughts go around in the head.The more you think the bigger it all becomes until you almost lose sense of reality.<P>I know I have to stop this "analyzing" stuff,it is just opening the door to more problems.I am looking and finding more stuff to worry about. Crazy eh?<P>SAD (no longer alone)<P>

Hey there;<P>Just checking in this morning to see how you are and it looks to me like everything is under control.<P>Don't try to over think your H's position....just continue to show him your love.<P>Treat everything as if this is just another day in your marriage and make sure that he is the on who has to make the decisions....this really is his move.<P>Also, I am so very pleased that you are doing well based on the docotor's visit....hang in there and you are going to get through this...<P>Thinking of you.<BR>

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