I know you all just returned home and are probably settling in and 'stuff.'<P>I wanted you to know I was thinking of you. <P>Much has changed and not changed with me and my H.<P>He has moved out, but spends most of his time over here...just sleeps there at what he calls 'the spot.'<P>We have been talking...(see A day at the beach and regarding our conversation post)....<P>He is still very much saying "I don't want to be married. I wasn't good at it. I don't want to be attached to anyone." I'm trying to decide if 'he doth protest too much...' if you know what I mean.<P>Even in the EN questionnaire, he found a way to write "I don't want to be married." twice...on affection and sexual fulfillment pages.<P>Anyway, I digress...I was thinking of you and wanted to thank you for your support during some of my dark hours...<P>Cali

Hey Cali, good to hear from you <P>Yeah, been a bit busy... :P spending a few bucks here and there getting some things we wanted / needed for ourselves. Just got back not to long ago from CA. Wasn't a totally unpleasant drive back despite the long mileage and long awaited comfort of home. Had some 1400 miles to talk, chat, and listen. So that worked out well for both of us.<P>Been trying to follow your story, I’m pretty much on the up and up with it right now. As far as posting goes... Couple of confusing posts out there. I guess the ow in your case drops by to read. <P>As the xow in my case is still here reading and posting under yet another new name to not upset the apple cart. Fine with me, if that is indeed her motivation for being here.<P>Also read a few angry posts by your husband. Sounds pretty pissed off at times. Hopefully he can take some of that hostility and put it to good use. Rather then the negativity he's displaying.<P>As much as your husband keeps saying, "I don't want to be married anymore" I'm following right along with you there. I followed that course also. Constantly reassuring myself of that, to protect me.<P>I've not yet filled out the EN questionnaires. Knewjie and I are doing our own mb plan with the marriage builders concepts. So we've got a plan from Jennifer and we are adding to it with our own ideas, etc. Working out great so far. POJA, and radical honesty has been a great tool for both of us during this time.<P>I've been meaning to drop by and spend a little more time here catching up with everyone. I've been out of the "Loop" so to speak for about 2+ weeks now.<P>My support hasn't stopped Cali, regardless if the current times are dark for anyone here. Including you. I'll continue to try and be as supportive and positive as one man can be. Definitely glad you've been talking with your husband, that’s always a step in the right direction. Sort of strange he spends most of his time at your house. Doesn't really coincide with "I don't want to be attached to anyone". But.. hey what do I know <P>Take care of yourself ((((Cali)))) keep "Doing" and you'll get to where you want to be.<P>------------------<BR>Prayers, Hugs, and Strength from both of us. Things do and can get better. Keep hoping, learning, and growing. Take care of yourself.<P>[H] and Knewjie