I wrote a few weeks ago about my friend whose spouse has been embroiled in an EA with a co-worker. The situation has escalated and the EA has become a PA. WS has apparently been quite mean spirited most of the time, basically rubbing my friend's nose in the affair. BS has decided that it would be best for the marriage at this time if they separated for a while - afraid that there will be huge lovebusting behavior without this move.<P>My concern is that there has been so little time to Plan A, but my friend has done quite well during this time, reducing disrespectful judgments significantly, and all but eliminating angry outbursts, the two LB's most common in the marriage. There is still resistance to counseling in any form, and internet connection difficulties have made use of the forum impossible at the moment. I am still pretty much the mainstay of support for my friend, although with the impending move from home, close family and a few other friends have been told. I have expressed that it is of the utmost importance that the Plan A behavior be continued and even stepped up between now and the move date. WS is also stepping up the nasty behaviors, so it will be even more difficult.<P>I have considered telling my friend to find other things to do and not spend much time at home between now and the move date, but I am not sure that is good advice. However, how else can we reduce the likelihood of a big blow up fight with WS behaving like this?<P>Ideas? Options? Advice?<P>------------------<BR><BR>S-Buster<BR>~~~~~~~~~~<BR>Who you gonna call?<BR>Have salt, will travel.
