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Just had a call from my H,told me that he wants a divirce.That is it,will not discuss anything else.<P>I cannot do or say anything......................<P>Am out of control.<P>Is anyone there?????<P>SAD AND ALONE
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Sad,<P>I'm here. You're going to be okay. Did you two have a fight on the phone? There have been lots of WS's that have said those words when in an A, and they have recovered.<P>I know how you feel, I have heard those words. They hurt beyond belief. But you are going to be okay. You need to breath, take some deep breathes, call someone who cares about you and talk to them. I'm so sorry for your hurt and pain, you don't deserve this. <P>Post back to us and tells us what happened, k?<P>Jo
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Ok sad&alone, <P>We are hear. Your H has made his statement. Now he has to prove it. You are being hurt by his words. Has his words and actions been in sync? Does he know what it will entail? <P>My dear sad, today you need to cry and show your hurt and pain. Is there someone that can be with you? If not, keep posting here. If you need a voice, let me know my e-mail is on the JFO site and I can give you my phone number. <P>I like many others know what it is like to hear those awful words. Don't go through this by yourself. <P><<<<<<hugs>>>>>>><P>L.<BR>
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s_a_a<P>Calm... it's okay... He can't go out and buy one from a vending machine tonight.<P>I'm not sure where you are in everything but I'll go back and see if I can read up. Let me just say that such talk is perfectly normal for someone in the fog, and you've got to just sit tight and not LB.<P>I can promise you that Plan A and B work if you let them... I don't mean that they automatically get your WS back, but I mean that they work for YOU. It really is true that if you Plan A and B correctly, the result is a win-win.<P>I know where you are... I've heard those same words spoken to me in person... Man it nearly killed me. But it's just talk. If you can show your strength, you will hear different words.<P>Hang in there... you are not alone...<P>-zen
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sad - remember, you are NOT alone.<P>I've heard those words, too. So far, nothing. This is more symbolic than threatening.<P>Keep your head high.<P>WAT
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Thank you,<P>I feel as if I have gone back to where I started,am crying and shaking,what have I done to deserve this pain.My H and my baby,both gone.<P>I want to write but cannot see the words.I am sorry.<BR>Please don't leave me......<P>SAA
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There is no-one I can all it is 0100 in the morning.He just called 20 mins ago,no argument nothing,he just said "I have been thinking a lot and that is it" The call lasted 2 mins.He said that tomorrow he will change his cell phone number and all contact must be via email.He then hung up the phone.........<BR>SAA
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Dear Sad& Alone,<P>If I remember correctly you are out here on the west coast? I am in the SF Bay area. Here is my e-mail address: lhmkem@yahoo.com<P>If you need to we can talk. I understand about your loss and feel your pain. The impact of both together is more than anyone should have to go through. <P>L.
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We're here, Sad. We won't leave you. Do you have a friend or family member who can come and be with you. You shouldn't be alone. <P>Those words cut like a knife. Like you, I felt it was like discovery day all over again. Took me back to square one. But, they are just words. <P>Can you tell us more, what else did he say. Talk to us Hon.<P>Jo
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I am in the UK,my family are not around and there is no-one I can call at this time.<P>I am breaking down.<P>SAA<P>GOD HELP ME!
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Ok, I don't mind making an international phone call. If you want send your number to my e-mail address and I can call you directly. <P>Please please keep talking to us. <P>L.<BR>
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I cannot expect anyone to call me internationally.If I could please have someones number I could call you.<P>I cannot take this.<P>SAA
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S&A,<P>It is generally not recommended to send out phone numbers on this site since it is available to anyone. If you would prefer to call me, send me your e-mail address and I wil be happy to send you my phone number. <P><BR>Hang in there. <BR>L.<BR>
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Sad,<P>You did nothing to deserve this pain. God only gives us what we can handle. You will be alright. Most of us here have heard those words. I have, and here I am, I made it and I'm okay. So, if I can do it (I'm the biggest wimp on God's green earth), you can to. <P>Please keep talking to us. What Plan have you been in. Where does your H live? Tell us about your baby.<P>Love,<BR>Jo
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Orchid,<BR>I have just sent you an email.<P>Resilient,<BR>I was trying to plan A but my husband has gone to the far east to work.I was pregnant when 7 weeks ago he told me he no longer wanted to be married.I then had a miscarriage,it was my first baby.He flew back last week for 4 days and asked to see me,I was still trying to plan A,I was trying so damn hard,you can read my othe posts.I really,really tried,no LB or anything and now this........<P>I cannot go on......<BR>SAA<P>
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Listen to Orchid. I know she cares.<P>Orchid - you're earning your Angel wings.<P>WAT
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I am feeling so much pain.I cannot take it.Why is he doing this???<P>I love him so much. I am so afraid.This is hell.<P>SAA
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Is anyone there?<BR>This is unbearable,I cannot even think.<P>SAA
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I'm sure you did a good Plan A, Sad. And I'm so so sorry to hear of your baby. I'm not sure of how long you've been married. I do know that sometimes life changes triggers doubts and confusion in marriage which can result in an A. <P>Your H saying he wants a divorce does not necessarily mean that. His actions need to match his words. I'm sure he is in mourning of loss of your baby as much as you are. Losing a baby is a terrible tragedy. I'm just so sorry, Hon.<P>I gather from Orchid's and your post that she will be on the phone with you. Please keep posting to us too. <P>Prayers,<BR>Jo
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Jo,<BR>Thank you,I don't know what to think.Last week when he came I thought that things were going to be OK.We cried together over our baby.......<P>He said he was sorry for everything.And now this.I really have done nothing wrong.I just loved too much.......<P>I am broken......I want to tell you so much,but cannot write the words.<P>SAA
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