For those of you that have posted to Sanandalone.<P>We spoke again since my last post. She is still upset but promised she will speak with me tomorrow. I wanted to check back with her again and was able to spend a bit more time with her. <P>She is currently in the London area. If you know of any support groups in that area. Please post it here. It may be helpful. She has read most of your posts before retiring for the night. You have really touched her heart. <P>To S&A: we look forward to you post tomorrow. <P>Thanks again for all your support. <P>L.<BR>

Sanandalone,<P>Though we are all far apart we are here for you. We are real people with real hearts who are about you. I'm so glad that Orchid was able to get in touch with you.<P>You are dealing with two of the worst pains a person can ever have to face. I've dealt with each, but seperately. I cannot imagine the depth of your sorrow and pain having all this happen at once. It is not fair. Some time life just sucks (that's how my kids would say it. You need to take very good care of yourself right now.<P>Please keep posting here so that we will know that you are ok. If you wish pour your heart out here, vent to us. Know that we will read it and we do care about your pain.<P>{{{{{{{{{{hugs}}}}}}}}}<BR>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare

Sad and Alone,<BR> Please read all these posts, really read them and take a few minutes to think about each poster. Every one of these posters sincerely cares about you. You are special and have so much to live for. I know your despair. I know your hopelessness. I also felt the same way when I discovered my H's affair. I seriously came up with the same solution you are considering. Now I'm thankful I also had some very special people supporting me and pulling me through that dark period. Although it's hard to see it now, every new day brings new hope and a chance at a brighter future. I'm glad I took that chance. Please take it too. Please.

Sad and Alone,<BR>Honey, please know that you can find your way through this - it's true...I'm living proof.<BR>I also lost my baby in the midst of my husbands affair.<BR>I know what that pain feels like, and I know what it's like to not want to live through it.<BR>The thing that kept me going was the thought of leaving my 2 children without a mother - for them I had to find a way to live with my pain.<BR>Who is important to you Sad?<BR>Would you ask them to live their life through without you?<BR>You need to stay strong for those that love you.<BR>You can do it Sad...all you have to do is wake up in the morning. Each new day will give you some kind of gift...even something as simple as the sun shining. Let that gift give you the strength to wake up again tomorrow, and then tomorrow find a new one of God's gifts.<BR>I have said a prayer for you Sad and Alone...I've asked God to give you some of the strength he has blessed me with...please try to feel it coming to you across the ocean...it's in the breeze.<BR>If you would like to talk, send me a note via e-mail and I will give you my number too...stay in touch, and we will all give you the strength to get through this.<BR>My e-mail at home is ajpoud@telusplanet.net, and at work it's apoudrier@chinookcentre.com.<BR>We are moving our offices, so the e-mail there may be a bit slow for the next day or so.<BR>Take care Sad and Alone...find strength in each new day.<BR>-Anna

Dear S&A:<BR>A miscarriage and a WS at the same time--two devastating and painful blows to anyone, spiritually, physically and mentally. You are mourning not only the death of your first child, but also your dying marriage. But do you know that God is saving each and every one of your tears? He will turn your mourning into dancing for you. We might not know how nor when, but it is His promise to us. We sow in tears and reap in joy. Your little one is in heaven. This might sound terrible, but would you have wanted your precious little baby to have a father like this who could treat his/her mom this way?<P>I have twins who were born 3 months premature. I had a very physically painful threatened miscarriage at 10.5 weeks. The kids were born both weighing 1.5 lbs. and remained hospitalized for approximately 4 months. Even tho they survived all the trauma and intervention, I can identify with your feelings of mourning. It's not fair, but the enemy doesn't play fair. God is on our side. He is helping you.<P>His strength is made perfect in our weakness. Consider yourself hugged. (I heard that preparation H works well for bags underneath the eyes. I tried it, but it didn't work for me! It stunk and I felt like a greasy idiot!) <P>Just cry and get it all out. Take some time off work if you need to. I call those 'mental health' days. You deserve a break. God knows what you can and cannot take. He is protecting you. <P>