Ok......H has been gone for 6 days.....giving me and our daughters no indication of wanting to come home.<P>I called my sister today...he is staying at her house......while talking to her she mentioned that he had just gotten there and she was getting ready to leave. I asked to talk to him. I wanted to know why he didn't call last night to see how the girls were. We has some pretty bad storms and he knows how terrified all 3 of them are of them. They always curl up to him when it storms.<BR>I asked him politely....in a curious sort of way.....not threatening at all. He said he fell asleep and didn't realize that it stormed. My sister later confirmed it....not by me asking though. Was just saying she couldn't believe he slept through them.<P>He called back a while later to talk to the girls.....was very nice and talkitive with me....unusual.<BR>He asked if I was planning on taking the girls to the race track this weekend. I said...I don't know..I was thinking about it. He said a friend from work invited him to a car show that same day....but he didn't know if he would go or not. Our oldest invited him to come with us....he said he didn't know....depended on how tired he was.<BR>After all the girls got through talking to him our oldest said....do you want to talk to mom...and he said yes.....unusual again. He's usually willing to just hang up after talking to the girls.<BR>I told him about something our oldest said today.<BR>She said.....mom....I have this feeling that dad is going to come home. I asked him how he felt about what she said and he said....I don't know.<BR>I asked him exactly what he thought I should tell her. If I should let her keep her hopes up or tell her that it won't happen.....again he said....I don't know.<BR>So......if he's so sure it's over......why all the I don't knows? He just told me yesterday that in answer to our daughter asking if he would ever come home......probably not.<BR>He's confusing the heck out of me......or I'm confusing the heck out of myself reading something into this that isn't there.<BR>I'm not quite sure what to make of it.

MP...<P>He is confusing himself... . Don't let him confuse you. He has to work his own way out of the fog. He has to feel his way through his own hell. You are doing well not to LB and bring up issues, but to be loving and supportive for your kids. It sounds as though he is asking himself some questions inside and playing tug of war with his own emotions, rather than playing games with you. That is all part of Plan A and Plan B. Take this time to keep working on you and your girls. See each opportunity you have as one for growth for you, him and the marriage. Don't make the mistake of pushing, or he may just fall over the edge. Hang in there...its a process and time is your ally. As long as he is searching, he can take all the time he wants/needs. Keep being supportive and loving and I think you will see more phone calls and suprises. Keep the faith!<P>*Out of our greatest fears, come out bravest deeds!*<P>Trueheart