Welcome to the
Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum
This is a community where people come in search of marriage related support, answers, or encouragement. Also, information about the Marriage Builders principles can be found in the books available for sale in the Marriage Builders® Bookstore.
If you would like to join our guidance forum, please read the Announcement Forum for instructions, rules, & guidelines.
The members of this community are peers and not professionals. Professional coaching is available by clicking on the link titled Coaching Center at the top of this page.
We trust that you will find the Marriage Builders® Discussion Forum to be a helpful resource for you. We look forward to your participation.
Once you have reviewed all the FAQ, tech support and announcement information, if you still have problems that are not addressed, please e-mail the administrators at
mbrestored@gmail.com
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 35
Member
|
OP
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 35 |
When does the "fog" lift. I've been reading and reading and I cry myself to sleep every night. When will this all go away?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 2,909
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 2,909 |
Fog lifts differently for each WS...<P>It is best that you don't focus on their FOG, but focus on you...on the changes you want and need to make...<P>Often, when WS sees BS changing and moving forward...without them...fog starts to dissipate...<P><BR>Cali
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 35
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 35 |
I'm getting better everyday. There are some days that I don't want to get out of bed. I guess itis his loss.
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 3,661
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 3,661 |
Oh boy, believe me I know how you feel. please read read read these posts. You will see many similar situations to your own, and find peace and support and understanding. Focus on yourself. Plan A. Respect yourself to know that you were an individual before you married, so you can function alone now - even though it hurrrrttttssssss sooooo baaadddd. I know. Trust and know that these principles work, and find some things to make yourself feel good about yourself. Hang in there. Post and read often. ![[Linked Image from marriagebuilders.com]](http://www.marriagebuilders.com/forum/images/icons/smile.gif) <P>------------------<BR>Faith1
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: May 2001
Posts: 3,303
Member
|
|
Member
Joined: May 2001
Posts: 3,303 |
Dear gabby2,<BR>I'm sorry to say this because I know that you love him, but your husband sounds like he's being a real class A jerk. What exactly are you hoping for? I'm not asking that in a sarcastic way, either. I'm curious as to why you want to be married to someone who doesn't seem to want to be married to you? I mean really? I need to know what you want from God so I can know how to pray together with you.<P>How come you put up with this type of torture? I could be wrong, but please just try to help me understand your thinking????? Was all your dignity and self-worth wrapped up in your marriage? And what about you is so unhealthy that you would choose to remain in such an unhealthy (emotionally abusive) relationship? Wherever you dropped off your dignity and self-worth, you must take it back! Do it for your own mental health! Stop allowing this man to dictate to you what your self-worth is, please! You are worth so much more than this. This person doesn't deserve you because he obviously doesn't appreciate you!!!!!!!! You have got to see this somehow?
|
|
|
|
|
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 35
Member
|
|
OP
Member
Joined: Jul 2001
Posts: 35 |
I guess I love him and want us to be a family. I have two children ages 12and 15. I can't just give up. H blames this all on me and blames me for the children not liking the OW. He is really P-----off at me. What to do?
|
|
|
|
0 members (),
145
guests, and
66
robots. |
|
Key:
Admin,
Global Mod,
Mod
|
|
|
Forums67
Topics133,621
Posts2,323,490
Members71,963
| |
Most Online3,185
Jan 27th, 2020
|
|
|
|
|
|
