Yes, my EN's were in order.<P>I really thought hard about SF and FS....but I have always been the 'top' breadwinner in our family and while 'unhappy' it was not as awful as when my H went into 'intimacy' withdrawal...<P>In fact, if anything pushes me to plan b, legal separation or divorce it will be lack of SF....<P>And, I'm not sure if it is pertinent, but H is my first and only lover...it is almost unthinkable, unimaginable that I could ever be with anyone else.<P>Cali

Cali:<p> <blockquote><font size="1" face="Verdana, Arial">quote:</font><hr>Originally posted by JustPlainCali:
<strong>Yes, my EN's were in order.<p>I really thought hard about SF and FS....but I have always been the 'top' breadwinner in our family and while 'unhappy' it was not as awful as when my H went into 'intimacy' withdrawal...<p>In fact, if anything pushes me to plan b, legal separation or divorce it will be lack of SF....<p>And, I'm not sure if it is pertinent, but H is my first and only lover...it is almost unthinkable, unimaginable that I could ever be with anyone else.<p>Cali</strong><hr></blockquote><p>I must admit that I have only just come across this response from you—four months after it was sent in respect of your post in GQ11 titled something like: "Why Shouldn't I Have An Affair".<p>I was really taken aback that SF was actually the top EN of a woman. It was the first time I have sween this since I found these Boards.<p>I hope things are OK now and you are having your SF needs taken care of. It is damn frustrating for a man; and from these boards I am learning that women feel just as frustrated.<p>I guess, in your case, it must be even more so as SF is your number one need.<p>Clyde<p>Clyde

Gosh...posted so long ago...so much as happened...<p>Yes...almost unfortunately my SF needs are being more than fulfilled. SF is more frequent than before A...<p>Why unfortunately? Because H still says he doesn't want to be with me...that he wants to leave...and I think the SF keeps my 'lovebank' at such a level that I am having a hard time making a decision about his or my separating.<p>Such a dilemma...<p>Thanks for your reply...<p>Cali