Tonight when my H came by he proceeded to tell me that rumors are beginning to surface about him and the OW having an A(which he still continues to deny) at his job.I ask him why he was telling me and his response was because you know how people talk and before you hear it from someone I wanted you to hear it from me. He continues to tell me that they are only "friends". I am friends with my co-workers to but I don't feel the need to call them at home up to 50x's a month at their homes or on their cell phones.<BR>Anyway, he seemed kind of upset about this. Is this because people now suspect something or is it it that he feels guilty about what he's doing? Could he be having a mid-life crisis? He's 37.I tried to explain the EA to him and he said I am not having an affair be it an EA or a PA if I were having an A I'd be happy and I am not happy. He seems really confused and as I've stated before we see each other everyday and talk on the phone throughout the day. I'm really confused. I know that actions speak louder than words so I'm continuing to Plan A, learning to be patient and not LB which I've been really good at in the past. Any advice?<BR>cybil

Cybil,<P>Sounds like you just need to keep doing Plan A and keep and ear and eye open. If he is having an EA or a PA the truth will come out. By the way, if he is calling her from your home, why not take the phone conversations to get some clarification? <P>Who knows what this latest thing is about. If he is having an affair he is just trying to cut you off at the pass. If he is not then he is probably truely concerned.<P>But go with you gut feeling. They tend to be correct.<P>Z<P>------------------<BR>He loves not who does not show love.<BR>----William Shakespeare